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Best friend and loneliness

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So I've grown up with this girl and the two of us have been sisters. We've shared all the ups and downs and even as everyone changed around us, we never did. Even when college started, I lost many friends- but not her. We stayed as close as ever. I love her to death and want to see her have all the happiness in the world but things are becoming difficult. Her and her bf have been together since high school and they're getting really serious. I'm happy for her, but suddenly it's like I've been put on the back burner. She's my number one but I'm no longer her's. I have no problem being number two but I feel like I'm not even that to her. She doesn't tell me much and I'm finding that I can't confide in her as much about my feelings anymore because she doesn't get it and honestly, she doesn't want to hear it either. She would never say that to me but I know her well enough that I can tell. I've tried talking to her about this but she blows me off and makes me feel like I'm being delusional- and that hurts too. I understand that part of the problem is that I'm still single. I've never been in a relationship and I don't see myself in one anytime soon. Also, seeing her and her bf so happy makes me feel really left out. Like I said, I'm happy for her but it makes me sad at the same time. I've tried putting my all into other things such as my career and I'm greatly excelling professionally but there's just something missing. It's like a hole that I can't really put my finger on. I've been focusing on my personal growth so much and it's amazing how far I've come but it hurts to see everyone moving on with their significant others and me not doing so. I keep telling myself everything in due time but when I see everyone else so happy I feel lonely and sad. Any advice? Please and Thank You.

Best friend and loneliness

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Sweet Gofigure, It\\\\\\\'s hard to watch someone you love, such as a Best friend who is like a sister, find someone to love, and you are sitting alone now on the sidelines, as time stands still for you. And being you have never been in a relationship, and don\\\\\\\'t \\\\\\\'see yourself one in anytime soon,\\\\\\\' will make the hands of time even more difficult. Yes...there certainly Would be \\\\\\\'something missing,\\\\\\\' along with the link you grew up with. It\\\\\\\'s up to YOU only to change the hands of time. Instead of watching the world go by, with \\\\\\\'everyone else so happy,\\\\\\\' start making an effort to go out with some Single friends, and start to meet someone who you can at least have a companionship with, and hang out with. Getting out and socializing will at least get you Out and About, instead of feeling sorry for yourself as you have been. Lick your wounds and move on. Your friend obviously has, and as you have found out, she has changed and you\\\\\\\'re Not Number One anymore. Someone else has taken your spot in a sense, but with even More significance now. I believe in time, when you least expect it, someone will come into your life when you least expect him to. And going online to meet others on a reputable dating site doesn\\\\\\\'t hurt either. Many people are doing it today from the comfort of their living room. Good luck, sweetie.xx

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