Author: Bradley Sheldrick
Published: Jan 12 2014
Everyone has their own thoughts on who they are including what they think they can mentally and physically achieve, what they look like and how they are perceived.
Self esteem however is different to your self image, however the two can be tightly linked.
We are bombarded with unrealistic ideologies of what we should be, how we should look, what we should eat, how we should act, what we should achieve, and all of these can affect your self esteem if you feel like you are not keeping up to those standards.
These opinions are at the root of your self esteem levels, and it is when negative opinions start to override your cognitive processes when we start to see negative self esteem issues and your confidence levels start to drop.
However, there is good news! You can change all of this as the opinions of yourself can be changed and they are not fixed and therefore you can adopt a new and positive view on yourself - so do keep reading!
The first step of adopting a new and better self is to firstly understand the root of self esteem and confidence issues and how they are affected.
Life events have the ability to affect your self esteem levels. When something positive happens to you, such as a promotion or the birth of a healthy baby, it will boost your self esteem and raise your confidence levels.
However, it is when negative life events happen such as loosing a job or death of a loved one where your self esteem can be dented causing stress.
Life events account for one of the main shifts in your self esteem and therefore if you can learn to tackle your negative life events in a positive light, then it can counter act the low self esteem that may follow from it.
With the New Year recently passed, a lot of people would have already made the first step in raising their self esteem and confidence levels, and that is by actually deciding to seek help or change in the first instance.
So, it is time to stop the negative thoughts in your head - you are not unworthy, unpopular, useless or inadequate!
There are a number of ways that you can get on the road to seeing yourself in a positive light:
Professional counsellors and psychotherapy groups can be the first step in tackling your self esteem and confidence issues! They are are trained health professionals such as KlearMinds that can help you get rid of the bad and negative habits that you have and offer services to help you fight depression and negative thoughts and raise your self esteem levels
Self-help is a great, cheap and easy way to mend your confidence issues and there are a variety of ways that you can help yourself as shown in the rest of the article.
One of the most effective things you can do yourself is focus on the positive things that happen to you every single day.
This requires very little time at all and requires no skill, so anyone can do it!
All you have to do is note down all of the good things that happen to you that day, no matter how small the good deed may have been.
It can be something as small as someone saying "Good morning" or holding the door open for you at work or as you enter a shop.
At the end of the day, revise all of the good things that have happened to you, and it will start to make you look at life in a positive light as you start to look out for positive events instead of just focusing on the negative!
Feeling unworthy is something what people with low self esteem tend to feel, and there is a great way that you can help to combat this.
Start by setting yourself a very small goal that is achievable, for example saving up enough money out of your monthly wage to buy something for yourself that you want, for example some perfume or a pair of trainers.
Then, start to make the goals more challenging, for example getting up to the microphone on a karaoke night or completing a charity run event.
By completing these goals you will start to gain more self confidence and believe that you can achieve more!
It is true what they say - when you look great, you feel great.
Working on yourself is great way to raise your self esteem levels and besides many criticism, it does not require a lot of money.
By simply washing yourself every morning, grooming your hair and dressing neatly it can drastically improve your self esteem levels.
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