Falling out of love 1 year relationship 7 years friendship
I have known this gal for 7 years now. We met via online site and met face to face. My gut said to me don't go for it. Only to find out later when she told me she had someone in her life she went out with me cause she looking for someone new. She used to be a heavy partying person. The lifestyle i never liked. So i decided best we just be friends. Through the 6 years of friendship she had multiple partners and instances where her life was at risk (driving under the influence, unprotected sex with a partner she knows was cheating). Lots if risk taking behaviour.
The in 2016 i noticed a great change in her and her circle of friends were more mature people who knew what they wanted in life. So i like that change in her. So we decided to give it a try (Long distance relationship). Only to find out later when she told me thinks between her and her ex where not over though she told me it was over. Something a part of me cant move away from cause i feel like a rebound or used at an escape from the cheating boyfriend. Am always reminded that she knows i will never cheat on her, so that makes me think am just her safe zone at times like that. She still has pictures of the guy with her in bed together making out.. After i confronted her about them i was told to move on. She later removed, the pictures but kep pictures of his house and cars. Am a student so i cant provide those thing he gave her and seems she longs.
A question why keep them if that not your dream, i was accused that i had a problem with the ex. Which i don't. Now am at a point where i feel like its better to be alone. Cause she is now going to her wild partying ways. I bought her a ring to show my commitment but it seems like she is still not focused on having stability. I know i should accept her past, but the past that i don't like keeps popping now and then. A part of me still loves her a lot but another says she is not the one. What if am wrong???
Continue to be a friend only.
Her lifestyle and values aren't compatible with yours.
It's not really worth it to pursue women like this for anything more than a fling. From my experience, they are just looking for some sort of sugar daddy to take care of them while they sit on their asses, and then they probably even cheat on those guys which is why they are no longer with them lol. I dated a girl like this, and she tried to play her poor decisions off as mental problems she couldn't control. She was very double-standard, didn't like the idea of men being with more than one woman and thought men in a relationship should stay faithful to their wife, but saw no problem with women going from guy to guy. Just stay away from girls like this, they're pretty much losers and are single for a reason. And if you give it a few years, her good looks will fade with age and then she won't have anything going for her.
Thank you for response guys I now realise its not worth it to continue living in doubt. Our values are just too far from each other.