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Marriage ending, where to go?

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Relationship advice Long story short, my marriage is over. We were married for 6 months, and she ended up telling me on Easter Sunday that it was over. We agreed to let the divorce go through, give her space and we could work on a friendship, get some things straightened out and go from there. I have been texting her, to the point that she says he doesn't ever want to have a relationship with me again and friends is it. I want another chance. She said before that we could try? I have since left her alone. Is there anything I can do to have her become friendly with me again and try to have a friendship and take it from there?

Marriage ending, where to go?

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You will need to let her make the decision about your marriage/relationship and basically the 'ball's in her court'. There's nothing you can do to make her become friendly with you. You need to give her time to sort her head and her emotions and texting her, particularly just after the event, won't speed up the process. Your best advice is to sort your own head and get on with your life without her for now. When she's ready and has the need to speak to you will be when she contacts you. Take your own advice and leave her alone. You need to realize that just as she needs space, so do you.

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I'm sorry about your situation, CHEDGE05. My ex and I separated after...a shorter period of marriage than you and your ex-wife, actually. So I can kind of understand your situation. I was with my wife for several years before we decided to finally get married. Right when the decision was made to break up, initially I wondered about if getting back together was possible. I think you'll wonder about it for a couple of months, until you're finally on your own and starting a new life without her.

I think at least a good 2 months or so after I had gotten my own place, I was completely over her. I still spent an entire year after the separation trying to salvage a friendship with her, but it was always only me making any sort of effort. I didn't want to just shove this person out of my life because we were no longer together. After getting the divorce and exchanging all of the necessary paperwork, she stopped communicating with me altogether. And I guess at a certain point you just realize, it's not worth putting yourself through it anymore. It's actually a lot easier not to bother trying to keep in touch, and to just sever those remaining ties to her.

Not saying your situation will end up exactly as mine has, but from what I can tell it's not common for exes to stay in touch after ending their relationship. One of my friends has managed to stay friends with many of his exes, though he never married any of them. And perhaps it really depends on the personality of yourself and your ex. But there have been couples that have broken up and gotten back together before. ...I just wouldn't expect that to happen. And honestly if it didn't work out, it's probably best not to have a repeat of that.

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