What are we?
Hi. I need some advice. I've known this guy for a little over 2 years now. We've always hung out, have so much fun together. Even just doing simple things. We could sit with a couple beers and talk for hours; he's told me everything about himself. I've always been really into him but never said anything. We have amazing sex, but he's never really kissed me; never said I love you. Recently he's been calling and texting WAY more. Basically almost every day. He made dinner last time I came over. He's even started to cuddle. Even heard the occasional "babe" thrown in there... The other day I came over and he brought up our relationship... He said were "friends... Really good friends" and then he asked why we haven't kissed... Well I've always wanted him to kiss me!! He asked if I thought it was too intimate or something? To which I said no
Is there something that is starting to happen?? Why is he acting different lately? Change of heart, or is he just lonely? Im not really keeping my hopes up since so much time has passed by... But he seems different, and he's never been in contact with me this much before. We basically co parent my dog together, and he asks to do outdoor activities with me as well now... (hiking snowshoeing etc) which he hardly ever use to initiate... Seems like we are doing more than just hanging inside his place now.
I don't want to lose whatever we have going on and that's why I haven't really talked about "what we are" with him... But what is it??? Does it mean anything to him? What label do we have? I don't know much about relationships.... Help. Lol.
Sounds to me like you both feel the same, you don't know where the "relationship" is heading. You both need to sit down & talk about it. It might not be what you want to hear but at least you will know for certain. I'd say he is definitely wanting more by the sounds of it but isn't sure how you feel and unless you tell him, he is never going to know :)
Honestly this comes down to communicating how you feel. I personally don't like labels, and there's plenty of people like me who don't need one, yet at the same time there are plenty of other people out there who do want them, and there's absolutely wrong with that. If he truly cares about you and feels the same way about you, asking him about where you two are in the relationship won't ruin it. At the end of the day, you just need to be honest with him and if he's a good guy, he'll be honest with you too.
Best wishes to you two!