Relationship and emotional problems
Hello, I feel ashamed to ask people for help especially the internet and I’m sorry for whoever reads, but I feel like I don’t know where to go anymore for this. For those of you who actually took the time to read this whole thing, I deeply appreciate it.
Where do I begin, I’m a junior in high school at the peak of hormonal issues, and I have many problems. I’m not depressed and I don’t have thoughts of suicide but I do have a lot of personal issues that lately have been getting very annoying to say the least. I guess I’m having a lot of emotional problems that I can’t seem to shake off.
First off, one of my main problems is with the girl I like. I know there are a bunch of forums out there already like this but please, don’t give a cliché response. I actually need help because my emotional and logical side are constantly conflicting. The girl I like is part of the group of close friends that I hang out with which is why this is such a trouble for me. We’ve known each other for about 2 months. When I first met her I was getting signs that she liked me, but I was kind of ignorant and didn’t really crush on her at the time. However, the more I hung out with her the more I realized that I liked her too. After this we hung out and did things together for about another week which was all good. I don’t know, maybe I waited too long but after that week we never had the opportunity to do things anymore. As time passed, there were days where I felt like I was getting somewhere and then there are also other days where I just feel all my progress got thrown in the trash. I’ve had thought about just straight up asking her, and my mind was completely set until the moment where I actually saw her, and then my body just melts down and I can’t say it. This event constantly reoccurs and I absolutely hate it. It just seems like my mind is set on getting into a relationship or facing rejection but my conscience or body refuses to deal with these types of situations. Now I see her happy and spending more time with another close friend in that group and I get extremely jealous. I think things out logically though and I don’t let this jealousy turn to anger or anything because the last thing Id want to do is destroy my relationship with my friends and the girl. I know in this situation I’m not completely innocent. There are definitely things that were my fault like waiting too long or expecting certain things from certain people. I don’t know what I’m trying to say. I just want someone to tell me how to deal with this because every day, I get more frustrated with myself and angry at others which I know is not something that I should be doing. I’m also tired of this because I know there are more important things I should be focusing on like college or school but I can’t remove these thoughts from my head.
If this is confusing I’m very sorry. I’m trying to get all the thoughts out of my head at once but by doing that, I think I’m making a huge mess. If any part of this is confusing please point it out and I’ll do my best to explain things more clearly.
I hope you are doing OK today.
First up I wanted to say that there is no reason to feel ashamed asking for help or apologise to those that read your post. Helping people with any problem they might have is what the site is for.
From what you've said so far I'm guessing that you've thought quite a lot about what kind of a relationship you want to have with the girl you like and weighed up the possible costs and benefits of letting her know how you feel?
I'm wondering if there is a reason you haven't been able to hang out together as much recently, or if you can think of anything that happened which could have led to the change?