And, now I feel really sad knowing that the loving, doting person I was with for almost two years is gone. It feels lonelier in a sense knowing I can never speak to the person he used to be because he has changed for some reason and now won't give me the time of day. If anyone has any insight as to why it is he's acting this way even though I took the break up in a very mature manner (not just saying that, when I left the conversation I hugged him and said I loved him and was very calm) I would appreciate it so much. I am so confused and hurt/angry.
I suppose it will be hard for you to switch your attention to another person, but you really need to make yourself do it, because it is the only way. I want to recommend you a good book findthereallove.com it is for free. I am sure it will help you with starting a new life.
And for sure, if your ex-boyfriend is really the very man for you, you will meet again through thick and thin in new, more happy circumstances!
may be your partner is not able to deal with it all; but one thing seems sure that this relationship probably wont be going any further and it doesn't sound as though it would be good for either of you right now to try to salvage. sorry!
the only person that can really give you insight is him.
most people would probably talk in some way to say what went wrong, but maybe this person just cant say, and you cant force someone to say, you can only ask, if they respect you at all as a person they may eventually talk; but I'm not hearing someone who cares anymore enough and is tired and just wants to get end it with you.
the fact youv'e had a relationship for 2 years and you still don't know what went wrong and he cant talk to you doesn't really say much for you as the couple you both thought you were! sometimes things change and however angry and tired you both are, i think this problem goes back far more than 3 weeks.
maybe he did tell you and you didn't really listen to what he was telling you because your emotions got in the way, only you know if that could be part of it.
could it be that maybe your partner doesn't feel you can handle the truth without adding too much personal emotion again, and he doesn't want anymore emotion from you?
if you are an emotional person ok, but that isn't going to change so you would be better to look for someone who truly wants that kind of person to be with them.
I don't believe its is out of the blue for you (or him), but it doesn't matter now. you know now that he doesn't want to be with you so you would be better to respect the decision be happy that you did have some good times and know you left on your side in a loving way.
of course its going to hurt, but in the long run you will move forward and feel better.
you might be better off not looking for the truth anymore, as you might get more home truths than you can deal with! he has warned you already he doesn't want your talking or emotion; so if you weren't listening or missed the signs before, listen to them now!!!!! before your anger turns into being bitter!!!!!
all I can say is time will be the only thing that helps you deal with this and move on when you can.
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