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Will it ever change?

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So me and my partner have been together for a year and half, we moved in pretty early on because of unforeseen sircumstances, we don't work, I'm on sick and he's on job seekers, however it's not bringing in enough money to have an actual life, I'm still young like I want to be doing things but we never can. He tells me how he will get a job, how he will do his drivers license so he can get a driving job, but nothing. When we argue and I mention it he used to say how I say things and don't do it (referring to my weight loss) but now I'm 3 months into doing something about that and he's still lounging around. I hate bringing all the money in, dealing with all the bills, being skint all the time. He tells me how he wants to go train and do mma but still hasn't gone to a single class. Then gets pissed when I say about getting anything and guilt trips me saying fine I'll go stress out and be depressed and miserable till I get and early grave. Makes me feel fucking awful. He's near 30 in couple years and brings just over 100 quid in every two weeks. I found a job at a family members work that he said he would be up for doing but kept putting off ringing, now he's rang there's loads of interest and he may not get it now. It's stressing me out, will it ever change? Or will I grow up without him? I need some kind of advice, this is my only resort cause I've not privacy from him ever, he even reads stuff on my phone, advice please??

Will it ever change?

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You basically need to understand that your BF isn't going to change and that you need to make a decision as to whether you keep him in your life. If you need to get on with your life, then you need someone who will support you and stand beside you and someone who shares your ideals and values. Going by your post, your BF isn't one of those people who grabs life by the balls and makes it what they need to make it. Instead he's quite content to sit back and watch it go by while guilt tripping you as an excuse for his inaction. He can become a MMA fighter or end up with a drivers license, but both of these things need to start from somewhere and that somewhere is him taking action to make it happen, rather than just talk about it. There's two types of people in this world, a leader and the follower and if you need to be with a leader, then you know what to do.

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