Stuck, trapped, desperate
I moved 1200 miles (22 hrs) away from home to be with my current husband. We've been married 10 years and have a toddler. We have always had a great friendship, but our marriage has struggled, a lot of it due to his infidelity. I hate where we live. I have nothing in common with most people here and have never made close friends. My family is very close and I miss them so much it hurts. He refuses to move because he works for his family's company and is due to be in charge soon. He also will not allow me to move with our child. He really is a fantastic father and the courts would never allow me to take her so far away. I came close to divorce after the second time he cheated, but the prospect of being even more alone than I am, and only seeing my child part-time was too much to bear. So, here I am, incredibly lonely, HATE where I live, and unhappily married. The only thing that brings me joy is seeing my sweet child every day.
Can anyone offer me any advice? I'm at a loss. Feeling trapped with no end in sight.
Hi. I can relate to your situation my husband has cheated on me several times. I dont think they ever stop because they dont take responsibility for it. I have been married 12 years. With family and friends he's this great outgoing guy very helpful and caring. With me he has no communication its a horrible way to live being hurt and lied to and on top of that they don't want to let us go. This is my second marriage I can tell you if you can prove he was unfaithful the courts will grant you full custody and I know how it feels to try and make a decision because they are good to the children but part of being a good father is loving and taking care of his kids mother. Men who cheat are selfish and we need to see them for what they are a good father doesn't make decisions based on his lower needs he does so with his heart and he wouldn't put his marriage at risk for any fling his kids and wife would come first. I know its hard to be alone single parent but you should really step outside of your shoes and see the kids won't be happy with a mom who is always so sad. And you will be OK you will be able to get your life back not worth it to give him your best years so he can continue to hurt you
Thank you. I appreciate your words. I don't know if I have the strength to be alone in this place where I have no family, and I dont think I'd be able to take our child across the country. I hate the thought of her not having her father in her life and he'd fight to keep her here.