Feeling financially betrayed
My fiance has been hiding purchases he makes at the store he works for (I have a store credit card, which he uses). In the last 3 months or so, he's been handling the payments in store. I thought we owed $330 (checked balance in June). I know he's taken money out of the account to make payments ($400 or so).
I recently found out that we actually owe $850 and this is after a $200 purchase I asked him to return. I am so upset over this - we have two little kids (I stay home and school them as well), and probably $15K in debt (all under my name - credit cards). The majority of the purchases were for him (clothes), some were for our kids and myself (clothes, shoes on clearance + employee discount). I cook from scratch, a lot of our girls clothes are pre-owned (some of mine too), we do not go out often, I try to keep it as frugal as possible. If we didn't have so much debt, and tightened more (the way I would like to).
I am upset over the new debt. I have been selling stuff online to decrease our debt, and this feels like a huge blow. We are both old enough to know better. I don't understand his choices and he doesn't seem to have an answer for me. I am angry over the $, and feel betrayed and disappointed. I feel like I am sacrificing my time (devoting a lot of time to sell), going without my "wants" so our kids don't lack anything, and only digging myself a bigger (financial) hole. How do I come out of this?
You don't mention what he bought.
Tires for the car? Or for gambling debt?
It DOES nake a difference.
In any case, you two need to be on the sane psge about how and when the credit cards are used.
He purchased clothes and shoes. The majority was for himself, some for our kids, some for me (mother's day), some for re-selling.