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Housing advice I am 24 and a really hard worker, I grew up with an abusive father until he ran away when I was 10, Since then I have lived with my mother and her boyfriend whom she met when I was 12 and my twin sister, until 2 years ago when my sister moved in with his boyfriend with whom she had a kid. We lived in a relatively large apartment, which was infact a gift to my mother from her mother, I haven't ofcourse lived in this apartment for free, every month I pay rent for the room I live in ever since I was 17, I also take care of maintenance because of my carpenters background and I always fed myself, I never drink alcohol, never smoke nor abuse any other substance, my mother never had to spend a dime on me, even then, I gladly accepted the smallest room, as long as I had a roof over my head, but now all of a sudden my mother dropped a bombshell on me that she has decided to sell the apartment, and only 6 months in advance, and I'm not welcome in whatever new home she is gonna get. So now I am on a timer, I have 5 months until I am out on the streets. Where I live, real-estate prices are absolutely ridiculous, It's a common problem here that rent is so high that most people can only afford to pay the rent and then basically get a half a months worth of food for their income, I took double shifts at work to hopefully earn as much as possible, but it's taking it's toll on me, I went to the bank and inquired about how much of a mortgage loan I can get so I can get my own place, but without a Security deposit I won't get a dime. I don't have any close friends or other loved ones I can crash with, I also don't have any contact with my fathers side of the family, I broke up with my girl about a year ago because I spent all my time on work, I don't really get along with my sister because we have never seen eye to eye because she never had to suffer our fathers abuse and mothers ire(I look exactly like my father, so she kind took it out on me). So this is my story, I'm in a bind and I just don't know what to do.

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You need to do what thousands of people do every year: move to a location where you can make a living.

You sound focused and resilient and hard working.

Book out. Leave town. Travel. Stay at youth hotels or the Y.

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I live in the capital, there is nowhere better to go, there other rural towns, but every year thousands actually move from those into the capital because of a lack of work there. It's quite literally a paradox, more people move into the capital, real-estate prices rocket up even more.

By the way, what is this "Y"?

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I have relatives who live in the US capital, Washington DC. It's ridiculously expensive. Especially for a young person.

I still maintain that you need to move to where you can afford to live.

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Thanks for sharing. The threat of homelessness can be frightening and in your case, alarming as it came without warning. I understand your distress but we do have 5 months to find some solutions so let’s explore some options and their consequences. However, my suggestions may reflect the practicality of such action in my home country but not yours.

Your previous post suggested a relocation. This may lead to new employment opportunities and career choices and should not be ignored. Don't limit the possibilities to your country. The United States can always use good carpenters.

Perhaps with a good, long term plan, your mother may allow you to live with her on a temporary basis until you get reestablished. She may be more agreeable if you help her in her relocation and resettling. Considering you were more of an asset then a liability to her in her larger apartment this may be of interest to her.

Depending on your relationship with your mother perhaps you can ask her for a loan if she is downsizing and has addition funds from the sale.

Finally, have you considered roommates? There must be others in Estonia who are looking for independence. If your choose roommates to share your expenses, please ask for references to find roommates who share your values and are compatible.

Please let us know what you decide or if we can help you more.

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How do you know he is referring to Estonia?

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I am assuming he is from Estonia because of his profile. Good question SUSIEDQQ.

This thread has expired - why not start your own?

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