Should I give up on him?
Hey, so recently I made a thread about a similar situation, but I wanted to make a seperate one.
So I have a Crush on this Guy for like 6 Months, at first he didnt even notice me but I contacted him and we talked a little, we are kind of friends now but not best friends or anything. So at the Birthday Party of a Friend we talked more than ever and I fell for him even more. He drank a little and got really flirtious, I was so happy at first because I got the Attention I craved for Months, but it didnt went well. There was this other girl (really pretty and athletic like him) so they went along really well and it hurted me to see how he looked at her and whispered things in her ear. I couldnt stand this anymore so I just went out every now and then. He still talked with me and we had fun but he didnt look at me the same way.
I know its nothing big and maybe I'm being a Crybaby but I never really learned how to deal with this kind of Pain. I just wanted to know If anyone had similar experiences and knows how to deal with it. Thanks for all help
I have definitely been there but it does sound like you are handling this a lot better than I did when it happened to me. It's always going to sting a little when you feel unwanted or not good enough at least at first. Something I noticed about myself, which would have saved me so much heart ache if I would have realized this sooner, is when I like a guy and really want him to like me back, I actually start to act different. I have all these expectations of this other person and I try to get them to do the things I want them to do by maybe being funny, standing a certain way to be more cute, saying interesting things. What ends up happening is I am actually uncomfortable, awkward, nervous, and finally disappointed my expectations were not met. You are the best you when you are comfortable. Its okay to have a crush, its always fun, but try not to interact with him with any expectations in mind. When you accept that this guy could like you but he also might not and that is okay, it makes it harder to get hurt by some one else choices and feelings but it will also keep you more comfortable when you are talking with him or around him. Guys like a confident girl and it might make it easier for him to see you as more than a friend if your not so nervous and awkward. I think you should give up trying to get this guy to like you and just try to be friends with him. Take all that pressure of that relationship so you it has a real chance to grow. Don't force things or stress it thats how you lose him real quick.
I totally agree with 80ALLAROUND. I have the same situation before. When my crush showed interesting in someone else and that person was not me. It hurt a lot and so painful that I tried every possible way to forget about him. I started to hang out w/ many guys to see if I like them more. I was wrong, no matter how perfect guy I met, the feeling for my crush is the same. Turn out all he did was to make me jealous. Sound fun but I just know the true 2 months ago. My suggestion is to love yourself. Don't change your personality or do weird things to make you forget him. Don't see him too often if you can or don't check him on social media. That way, you will less think about him. If you think there is possible to get him to like you, then the pain will last for a long time. You can't force someone to fall, you just fall, that's why we called falling in love. Time will heal, longer or sooner. Good luck to find someone who you like and like you.
Six months is a long time to try to make things happen --- and if you think about it, nothing did really happen. It was pretty much one sided.
Start again. Wiser now. Choose better. Be a friend first, then the crush.