Aunt embarassed and insulted me
DZ - Oct 30 2017 at 13:14
Hello I am trying to figure out how to get over embarrassment dont know if its me being immature or if this is normal. I am male 23 and I stay with my Aunt Kate 3 times a week because its closer to my school. on Friday I played soccer after class and came back to her house. shes a really cool lady and my favorite of all my aunts and even tho shes older (61) we get along really good. I went to get a shower and I had the worst Charlie horse in my thigh then I ever had before (real bad muscle cramp). I felt cramping at the game but thought it would work itself out. the pain was so bad I couldn't stand I kinda fell back in the tub holding my leg it hurt so much I screamed and all a sudden my Aunt was there and it freaked me out I was naked and she was there asking what happened I told her and yelled for her not to look to cover me and she did with a towel but I felt so ashamed and embarrassed because she saw me naked. the Charlie horse took 15 minutes to go away and I got out of the tub but I had to tell her to leave. I know she was scared and she thought she was helping me but I feel like I lost my privacy now. I guess she knew I felt weird and wanted to make me feel better so she says hey don't worry about it Jeff I used to change your diapers. but that made me feel worst I felt like such a loser and she compared it to when I was a kid in diapers and its totally not the same im 23 not 3 but I did not say anything I ignored what she said but like why would she say that I mean she saw me naked so she saw that I got hair " down there" so why make me feel like a child and compare it to changing my diapers? she totally insulted me. am I being immature or taking it wrong? how do I get over her seeing me that way and feeling embarrassed. I have to go to her house later but I feel ashamed to see her. should I say something or avoid her. any help anyone?
First thing, your aunt didn't insult you.
Second thing, there's nothing to be embarrassed at. You yelled out of pain, your aunt ran to help you. You were naked. So what? That's your body and she knows it. And that's OK. She probably gave you some baths too. So, get over it.
What if you go to the doctor? Will you feel embarrassed at the doctor checking "down there"?
I had a surgery to remove an inguinal hernia. I was 19. I can tell you that I felt that too many people was looking at my junk all the time. The nurses shaved me and it wasn't sexy.
But I had to chose between being embarrassed or just let it be.
So, let it be. A lot more people is going to take a close look at you. Just see it as good story for your kids or grand kids.
Wow ok I guess its just me then ok I get it im feeling to sensitive about it all but still I feel like I lost my privacy now in front of her and ill have to get over it. Silvarion your a guy and and what you say makes sense you was thru a lot more then what happened to me but you don't understand what she said was an insult to me as a adult. how can it be the same as when I was a kid diapers or in a bath or whatever. I agree with you that she probably didn't insult me intentionaly. SusieQQ I guess your a lady and its like you totally think its ok she saw me naked. Don't worry about it just laugh at it I don't think it would be that easy for you if it was opposite. Isnt what she said not right to say to me now since im an adult? What I said about her seeing my pubic hair there meant she should've realized im a adult and shouldn't said what she did and made me feel even more embarassed. Thanks both of you peoples for answering and I do get what your both saying but I still don't think your seeing it from my point. Thanks
I'm not missing your point and I know it's important to you. What I mean is that the sentence "I changed your diapers" is not meant to tell you that you're a baby or that it's the same situation. What it means is that she has the level of intimacy with you. That she knows you and loves you almost as your own mother and that it's not shameful the fact that she saw you. Be comfortable with your body. There is nothing to be ashamed of.
We all have penises and vaginas and that's perfectly OK. I'm not saying you have to go out and run naked on the street. What I'm saying here is that you shouldn't pay attention to this as a bad situation, but as a funny situation.
Once, my mom was staying at home with us (my wife and kids) and she entered the room during the night because she thought she heard one of the babies "crying". I can tall you it wasn't a baby crying and I ask her to please get out to be able to "finish" what we were doing. From that moment on, we would lock the door whenever she's home.
No shame. No embarrassment. It's just a funny situation. The sooner you take it as something natural that would have eventually happened, the sooner you'll leave it behind.
Think about it. At least you weren't masturbating, or something ;) (I've also been there)