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I love my boyfriend so much and he says he loves me. His 5 years older than me and has had alot more sexual parners which doesnt bother me. We decided it was time to have sex but it all went wrong, he couldnt get an erection and when he finally did it was for a few seconds then he came before even entering me. This happens eveytime and its really getting him down, he says its never happened to him before. so does this mean his not attracted to me? am i doing something wrong?

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try doing it for a second time or even a third

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Maybe it is because he is nervous, or finding it difficult because of the previous relationships / sexual partners he has had. Even though he has had a lot of sexual partners, the experience is totally different when you are with a new one.

As Tiger suggests, you could try doing it for a 2nd time, because he shouldn't come so quick the second time.

Don't pile on the pressure for him to perform either, because this will just make him feel less relaxed, leading to even more of a problem. Find out what his fantasies / preferences are during foreplay, and build on them.

Hope things improve, otherwise you gonna have to find another partner!

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we keep trying but its still not working, i didnt put any pressure on him n i told him it was ok, he jus got very funny with me and walked out the room. Ive recently found out his last girlfriend told him he was crap in bed and tiny compared to his last girlfriends. could this be y his having this problem. I love him so much and i really wanna help but dont know how to.

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Hi JoJo

When you said he had lots of sexual partners before the problem could be that one of them did something to him ( said something horrible to his private) and now he has lost all his confedence to make love because his probably scared. Try and talking to him.

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chin up girl! its nothing to do with u, jus talk with him n try n work it out together, it will suddenly POP up when u least expect it. xxx best of luck.

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Hi there it could be lots of things like nervs no confidence and the trouble is the more it happens the worse he will feel just keep trying and give him loads of support i know it must be frustrating for you but just hang in there and good luck

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Keep trying and dont pressure him. Get some baby or olive oil and rub it on his u no wat, that should get him going. If not, keep trying different techniques and ask him wat he likes. Build up his confidence, tell him hies absolutely huge. that may help. Tell him hes the sexiest man youve ever seen. love angel good luck

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Hey thats not bad if you really want to finally have sex with your boyfriend ask him what tuirns him on and then talk about it or if it is a pic or a moovie play it in the bacround really once you had sex with him you know it was worth it

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I feel love that this man is not right for you he must be having an affair if hes not making love with you then hes doing it with someone eles, this maybe another women man or even is hand, but i suggest you get out wel you still can yor a young girl. End the relationshit or take things slow.

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