Need advice on a relationship
I was dating a guy for almost a year. I'll call him Mike. Mike had wanted me to take a job in his town working with his mom and Aunt. I fell in love with his whole family. I took the job and was set to move in with him. I found out he was cheating on me with several different women.
We broke up but I still ended up moving to his town to be closer to work. I saw his cousin and invited him over for a drink as he has been going through a hard time. I'll call the cousin Robert.
Robert came over we had a few drinks lots of laughs and good conversations. I told him he could sleep over if he wanted as he had been drinking and I didn't want him driving. He looked at me and told me he wanted to kiss me. I hesitated and after thinking about it, I said ok.
We kissed and he ended up sleeping in my bed. Yes we had sex. We made plans to go out the next night. He opened the doors was a wonderful gentleman. We went bowling with my friends and family. Then we played air hockey, then went to a bar and played 2 games of pool. Then back to my place and again he stayed the night.
We had made future plans to go out to do other things, we discussed my neighbor reading my palm and telling me I will have another child, a girl. He said he wanted another girl.
He didn't stay the following night, but I told him I missed his smile and him being there. He said he would definitely be over that night
Well my ex mike found out. We live in a tiny town. He was furious. Yelled at me and at Robert. Robert messaged me and said we need to go our separate ways because Mike was pretty mad.
I just can't let it go. I see his smile and laughter when I close my eyes. I enjoyed his company very much. I have not contacted him since he said we need to go our separate ways. But I'd like to see where we could go.
Should I leave it alone or try and talk to him?
You mean a guy's cousin is running his life?
This guy has no backbone!
Ask for an explanation, then tell him you are disappointed in his lack of courage in not standing up to a cousin.
Best you found out now.
About 5 days have gone by, he's been sick. He said he didn't care what his cousin thinks and wants to take me out. I'm so excited I can't wait.
Mike is the type of guy you need to stay away from while Robert, his cousin, needs to stand up for himself. If he can text you that you guys need to split because Mike yelled at him, then you need to understand that Robert is not his own man, whether he's been sick or not. The size of the place where you live, plus the family you're involved with, will make it hard for you if you don't have the full support and respect of a strong man who will stand up for you.
He did stand up to Mike, he said he didn't want anyone in the family upset. His grandma, aunt and dad said they liked me and Mike being upset is his problem.