Break up because I can't get pregnant
RIANAFROMFINLAND - Dec 1 2017 at 08:33
Hi all! Yesterday evening my current partner informed me that if we don't have a baby we will separate. It is not easy for me to even write it here and the more I process it the more I want like to shove it all in some corner and forget about this nightmare of a life. So basically we are in a partnership for 4 years and we are trying to have a baby for like 3 years but I didn't get pregnant. I have underwent insemination 2-3 times but it didn't help. Now we are planning to do the IVF but now I am not confident anymore that will succeed. My confidence is shuttered and I don't have anymore hope. I just feel alone and already think to plan to move out. I don't even know what I would expect from me writing this message to you guys, probably some piece of advice... I know when you are down and depressed and stressed probably will affect the changes to get pregnant but I can't help it and I don't even know how to pull myself up.
Is there any other reasons that may be contributing to your partner's behaviour? Any other arguments, difficulties, etc.
Perhaps you both just need time where you both are not focused on having a baby. Maybe he is stressed out and it's his stress that is talking? I hope your ok
I hope it’s the stress talking, but if it’s not and he actually means it then I would reconsider having a baby with him or for the time being.
So ask him, if he actually means it or if it’s an empty threat but I don’t like it that he said that to you. For you, I think you need to know he’s gping to stick around. He should not be making you feel anymore stressed when this is already hard for you (and him).
We don't fight,we have a normal relationship I would say, except this. We have perhaps different personalities, sometimes I try to talk to him about this and I end up to feel more down and depressed then before so I just can't continue the discussion enymore. I suppose he is stressed or desperate because he doesn't have a chilld although he is over 40. So in terms of supporting each other through hard times we become more apart. Some things even in a relationship make you, some break you. I feel this, putting pressure on me, breaks us. He is more introvert I would say, which doesn't help me. Sometimes I don't feel comfortable to talk to him because I need more positivity and encouragement but in return I get silent blame. You know sometimes less words and silance can be accusing and hard to bear.