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Does having a serious health problem mean I can't have a normal relationship?

Posted by
CARLOSORJP
on Dec 17 2017 at 08:33
Member since: 17 December 2017
S-e-x advice I have suffered from GI/"gut" problems for over 25 years now. I've learned--mostly through trial and error--how to manage it with diet and supplements...well, mostly manage it. I'm not 100% free of issues now, but I've eliminated most of them. The trouble is, I've been through two dysfunctional marriages and now I'm unhappy in my current relationship. And I've recently begun to wonder if maybe I just need to accept that I can't have a normal relationship due to my health issues.

I and the woman with whom I'm with get along fairly well, but we've become like roommates and friends. She lost much of her sex drive and I have lost my attraction for her. I chose to leave/separate from her once but came back after I started grad school (and she seemed to have changed, but the changes I saw only lasted a short time, then some troubling things reverted back to the way they were before).

It was difficult for me to categorize this issue, because I feel it's a relationship issue, but when it comes right down to it, it's primarily about sex (or the lack of it in our relationship). There's no passion, and I feel like I need that somehow. And, yet, I wonder, do some people--people with a time & energy-consuming health problem like me--just learn to live without it?

Does having a serious health problem mean I can't have a normal relationship?

Reply from
SUSIEDQQ
on Dec 18 2017 at 14:07
Member since: 27 December 2013
You say she lost her sex drive.

Is that due to your illness?

Or because the relationship has fallen apart?

There are challenges when cHronically ill people enter into relationships, but after three times, (including the dating and dealing with health concerns during this time) one would hope that the illness issues would be secondary to real issues.

What do you attribute the diminishment of sex drive for both of you?

Does having a serious health problem mean I can't have a normal relationship?

Reply from
SOULMATE (moderator)
on Dec 22 2017 at 18:54
Member since: 19 August 2014
And how many years ago was the start of that first dysfunctional relationship?

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