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Urgent!! Advice Needed For Pets!!

Posted by
BLUEHUES
on Jan 3 2018 at 08:35
Member since: 27 June 2016
Emotional advice forum category advice forum category My mother took a dog from her colleague saying that she will take care of her and everything. I told her it'd be difficult since we have 3 cats but she didn't listen.

1 week after the puppy came my mother decided to give her away to someone totally irresponsible without even telling me or my sis. I cried like crazy and got the puppy back.

We're keeping her indoors and we're all too busy to train her. She barks in the middle of the night and scares the shit out of my cats.

Every night I think about finding a good family for the puppy but by morning I chicken out and think how the puppy is going to feel like she'll be sad and scared. I don't know what to do.

In 2 weeks I'll be totally alone with cats and this puppy for a year. I go to uni everyday and come at 7p.m

Please give me some advice. How do I build the courage to let her go?

Urgent!! advice needed for pets!!
Reply from
BUNNYHABIT
on Jan 15 2018 at 23:56
Member since: 23 May 2017
their are many dog kennels in every area that can assist you in finding a suitable home for your puppy at reasonable fee. don't try to do by yourself as you do possess the expertise or network necessary for timely and safe placement of animals
Urgent!! advice needed for pets!!
Reply from
SOULMATE (moderator)
on Jan 16 2018 at 00:55
Member since: 19 August 2014
Hi BlueHues :-)

First off - if you're still stuck - ring or visit the original owner, the colleague. She no doubt is still deeply attached to the puppy directly or through her relationship with its mother, even more than you are, in this short space of time, and would much rather suffer the inconvenience of taking it back and having to find another home, than sit with the knowledge that - through no fault of your own - the puppy is living a stressy - soon to be unavoidably neglectful as well - life.

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That's that. Now this:

Re-write:

My young teenage daughter took a dog from her schoolfriend saying that she will take care of her and everything. I, her mother, did what mothers do and told the younger, less intelligent, less experienced, less sensible person - my daughter, that it'd be difficult since we have 3 cats, but, like young and foolish daughters do, she didn't listen.

1 week after the puppy came my daughter decided to give her away to someone totally irresponsible without even telling me or her sis. I cried like crazy but did what responsible adult women do and got the puppy back.

We're keeping her indoors and we're all too busy to train her. She barks in the middle of the night and scares the sh*t out of my cats. (You'd think my daughter would have foreseen this, considering everybody, even toddlers, know that dogs and cats clash and stress each other out.)

Every night, like the matriarch I am, I think about finding a good family for the puppy but by morning I chicken out and think how the puppy is going to feel like she'll be sad and scared. I don't know what to do.

In 2 weeks I'll be totally alone with cats and this puppy for a year. I go to work everyday and come at 7p.m (Apparently, my daughter is so childish she didn't see this coming, either.)

Please give me some advice. How do I build the courage to let her go?

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That's better. Now it fits. (See it?) In other words, the strength of how you're feeling is NOT purely down to the puppy situation, it's your mind reacting normally to the abnormal fact that a woman who's supposed to be a grown-up and your mother acts uncannily like an over-entitled, impulsive, thoughtless, irresponsible, problem-creating, obstruction-placing (i.e. passive-aggressive) child (yours), with you, meanwhile, thinking and behaving like a responsible, fully-grown adult woman making adult-woman, head-of-family decisions.

Yes, good question - How do you build the courage to (emotionally) let (cough!) her go?

When you've dealt with the puppy problem, come back to find out how to deal with the My Mum Is Only Five (Or On a Good Day, 13) problem. (Did you know she was? Are you aware this is your real issue?)

Discussion closed - why not create your own thread?