I like technology and the Internet, to a point. I still enjoy video games and occasionally shop online. I prefer self check-outs to registers at stores most of the time. I grew up as a teenager chatting on AIM and using message boards and blogs.
But I only recently gave in and started using a smartphone. I have never really gotten into Facebook or watching Youtube videos by different personalities. And the jokes and memes online....It's as if people spend their every waking hour coming up with that stuff. Obviously, generations younger than myself adapted to modern technology a lot quicker than I have.
Well, here's my point:
My retail store is starting to embrace an online future. They are focusing on online sales and grocery picking services for customers, and pushing away from brick and mortar.
I don't know if I can adapt to a world without physical places to go and things to do. Many shopping malls are closing and specialty stores are tanking. The grocery store and general store, it seems, are poising for a future where they exist as warehouses that can ship products directly to households.
I am single and socially awkward, and my attempts at meeting people through online dating have failed pretty consistently. I think meeting people in person gives me a better chance. But when there is no place to go and nothing to do, how can someone like me meet anybody?
The latest rumors are that my company is considering doing away with cashier positions in favor of self check-outs eventually. And I'll admit, I find that really alarming.
Is there any way a guy like me can continue to adjust to this? Are the changes going to be as drastic as they seem?
Socially awkward - how?
@Soulmate - Hi there.
Well I guess I'm not even sure what I mean by socially awkward. What I mean is, I have anxiety and have difficulty approaching many social situations, even some I've dealt with alright many other times before.
And I'm not a sheeple like most of society, I don't usually do things to follow the crowd or because it's what's automatically easiest.
I just try to be myself and hold a job. And to most people I guess I seem fairly boring and too up front with things to be interesting. I'm not that confident and lack certain features women look for in a mate.
Is that kind of what you were asking?
Why, were you thinking the worst, like, being made redundant?
Have you looked into any self-help books regarding negative thinking in relation to social anxiety or vice versa?
But I'd say, if you've done something before, even many a time, but still experience anxiety at the thought or looming of it, it's not the social situation per se causing the anxiety...it's coming from within, whether anew or was in there before and is now nagging you to deal with it.
Where do you think it comes from? Did you lean to fear society for any reason, e.g., got humiliated so often the shame stuck and gets triggered when you're about to go back into the lion's den (depending on your state of happiness and confidence on any given day)?...I.e. are you a *Black* Sheepie? Or are you bored(ie), not really using your brains(ies) () to their fuller potential? Or are you somehow caught long-term in a social and work world of superficial, insensitive d*ckheads?
Begin with your strengths. List those related to your intelligence, spiritual convictions, social comforts, financial abilities, and emotional capacities. You may be pleasantly surprised with your assets. Also, list your liabilities or weaknesses. We all have them. After this personal inventory, find some activities, in which you are comfortable and capable. These could include, but are not limited to, church activities, gyms, bars, libraries, sporting events, art classes and the like.
I think we may have had this conversation previously but there are many women out there that like the mysterious type. I don’t think you need to be a pole dancer to get the attention of someone that is worthy of conversation as a starter. Phony can be spotted on anyone, so be who you are. “You were fearfully and wonderfully made."
if there is a promotion or lay off who do you think will be chosen a sheep or a shepard.
aggressively continue with your self help plan to get ahead in life.