Has anyone else experienced anything like this or have any advice for me? I should also mention that we have four children and I desperately want them to be raised with both parents. I really want to make this work if at all possible.
Thanks for reading.
all these alternatives may lead to a divorce if other partner wants to marry him or break away and he prefer her over you. the second choice i believe is the safest alternative to maintaining your marriage long term if you can handle maintaining a friendship with his other lovers.
If he knows that you're uncomfortable with an open marriage then maybe you should have a more in depth discussion if you think there are trust issues.
There are a number of reasons as to why one partner or the other want an open marriage which I'm not sure if should really go into here.
Do some research there's alot to about the subject.
But that's not what YOU want because it violates your marriage vows and makes you sad. And besides, this has worked for 20 years, so what's NEW in his life that makes him want this kind of lifestyle?
Could it be a "man-o-pause" for him? Kids taking up a lot of your time and the marriage was not kept romantic? He wants to act on a specific situation with a soecific person.
He owes you an explanation and that can be done in front of a marriage counselor - a safe place to reveal what's going on. Insist that before you grant this " wish" it be discussed in counseling.
Don't give him the go- ahead to do something that will cause damage to your marriage and wreck your self esteem.
this idea will insure your divorce in the near future
good luck to you