California has cleaner as well as more advanced environment where the native language is English. It is also less crowded. If none of these are a problem thailand is a great place to raise a family in more traditional values than the usa. you may find establishing a business more complex, also.
it is not uncommon to have two or three generations of a family living together in the same house.
a very complex decision you are facing. i wish you good luck in picking the right path as both alternatives have many pros and cons
When *you* find a job and a house? Shouldn't that be - when WE / I and my husband?