I’m currently with my boyfriend of almost 4 years. Recently my ex has been contacting me, there has always been unfinished business with him. My ex is a massive player, but with me he’s nice and it’s familiar as we more or less grew up together. I really enjoy his company, and if I’m being completely honest fancy him.
I could never split up with my current boyfriend because there will always be the possible regret of losing the person I care for most. But with my ex, there is excitement and laughter that I think has gone for my current boyfriend.
I’ve recently met up with my ex, without my current boyfriend knowing, and now feel really guilty and can not get him out of my head. If I tell my current boyfriend about meeting my ex he will be livid.
Please advise me on what to do.
There's no way you can be successful with your current BF when your ex is "unfinished business". You need to move on completely from him before you can be with anyone else..it's that simple. If you can 'block' your ex then you're starting the process of moving on from him but if you can't, then you need to decide if he's worth having in your life and where he fits in your life, because your current BF is the one you care for the most. The possibility of distancing yourself from both can help you decide but it's easy for others to say and a very hard action for you to do and make.
Above all else, your current guy's reaction to finding out that you met with your ex should tell you where you stand. You need to be true to yourself to sort this issue. You need a man who supports you and respects you and keeps you happy...but do you need a man who's a player?
I agree with MANALONE, 1000%. Excellent advice!
We ARE attracted to the "bad boys", aren't we?
They are so exciting that everyone else seems "boring"
BUT ... remember why he is your ex. How come he's free to mess around with you?
He's having fun with the chase; you like the attention.
Maybe counseling will help you discover why you want that "hurts so good" feeling again.