He has sent one of her accounts to a lawyer who will negotiate it down and the other one he pays a decent amount b/c he wants her to have at least one card should she need it (but hopefully he won't use it for his own now that's he employed again and collects social security as well). Last night I asked him about what he is doing to address his mom's credit cards and inquired as to the balance of her 1 card he is paying with her money. While I know the amount is about $7,100 (with added late fees when he didn't pay it on time a few months ago) and ongoing interest, he said "about $6,000" to me and seemed reluctant to say anything to me. Also, when I asked him if he has paid off his cards, he said he is paying one down incrementally (which is true) but also said it has )% interest, which is not true (when he got the card a few years ago is was 0% but has been 22% interest for a while now). Shouldn't he know this when he pays the bills (and he is lying to me again) or is he just clueless (and I shouldn't hold this against him as a lie).
WE HAVE AN EXPRESS UNDERSTANDING THAT TO MOVE FORWARD WITH THIS RELATIONSHIP EVERYTHING MUST BE TRANSPARENT.
Therefore, the question is: do I just let this go and move forward with him or is this just another example of his persistent lying and finally give up even though we love each other????
You have posted here and on other sites several times about this same situation.
Can you share why this decision is so troublesome for you?
It doesn't really matter whether there's transparency or not, you've established that he's irresponsible with money, and he lies. You, on the other hand, sound like you've got your act together, steady employment, planned for the future, etc, etc. I see potential problems if you live together. You don't want to find out one day that you're in debt because he's borrowed money in your name without your knowledge.
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