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He treats me nice but not nice to strangers

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Relationship advice Hi everyone. I've got a problem I need some advice on to get others opinions. Im 12 months post separation. And happily separated.

So I'm dating a guy and he treats me very nicely, but get in the car with him and he's agressive towards other drivers on the road, unnecessarily. Went to the mall and it seem like he was just looking to pick a fight out of nothing with others, like a guy who drove next to us while we walked towards our car and he smacked side of his car and said lucky I didn't key it. Then drove round and gave this guy the glare on our way past. This is all in front of my 11 year old daughter too.
No tolerance towards others at all. I'm surprised he has got to the age he has with out any assault convictions. I came out of a marriage where my husband cheated and didn't treat us right.
Thing is this guy is really nice to me and my daughter and we all have fun and get on well. But then there's this other horrible side to him.
A few months ago I broke up with him because of this and started seeing him again lately, he knows I don't like this kind of behavior but here he goes again. I don't know what to do.

He treats me nice but not nice to strangers

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This man does not seem stable. His explosive behavior is that of someone bi-polar.

It’s only a matter of time before he turns on you or your daughter. For the sake of your daughter and your own safety, distance yourself from him ASAP.,

He treats me nice but not nice to strangers

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I’m sure that it’s nice to have someone treat you well – someone to have fun with you and your daughter. However, what is your daughter seeing when you go out and he treats others so meanly? How did you feel when you broke up with him? Why did you feel it was necessary to get back together with him? Often, we humans live for the moment and don’t think about the consequences in the future. I think it’s important that you think about the questions I’ve posed.

I also think that it’s important to think about your daughter and her young, impressionable age. Our kids get a lot of “junk” from the TV and other media. I believe that it’s important for their relationships in real life to be stable and good. We are told to do unto others what we would want done to ourselves. I’m sure this guy wouldn’t want to be treated the way he is treating others. Maybe you could talk to him more about it. Be open and tell him how important it is for your daughter to see good treatment of others.

Many people don’t like their faults pointed out to them. It worries me though that he treats people this way. It worries me because what will happen to the relationship with you and your daughter in the future? Will his niceness to you two change? Think long and hard about staying with him. I wish you God’s speed.

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