Will my husband ever show me affection again?
I’m 38 my husband is 50. We have a 5 year old daughter. He was always very affectionate with me when we dated. We were together for a long time, then we got into a few fights when the mortgage crisis hit because he said he, as a mortgage broker, couldn’t make a living anymore... what I mean is he was drinking heavily and always grouchy and mad.
I thought once those problems subsided things would be back to the way they were. Not so much. He literally lost everything. I moved to New York for work and then thought he could move out there, but he didn’t... then I got pregnant with my daughter while visiting Home for New Years. So, we got married and when I was working as an auditor while he tried to put things back together. I wasn’t home much because I was always out for work. He thought I was cheating on him.
I was only going out to make money to pay the bills. I actually gave him all of my money before he filed bankruptcy. I’m a Taurus he’s a Pisces. As a Taurus I value security and I’ve felt very insecure because of all of this. I had a horrible experience would omg with horrible people and then I came home to a man that was mad at me.
Well fast forward 5 years. We now have started what is looking like a very lucrative and growing business. Money is finally starting to pour in again. My husband, who quit drinking 5 years ago tells me the reason he hasn’t laid a finger on me intimately in 5 years is because he hasn’t been drinking. I have not had an intimate encounter with my husband in 5 YEARS.
I told him if he can’t show me affection that we needed to open up the marriage. He says if I cheat on him he will divorce me. It’s not fair. I need a man who will make me feel desired and loved and I shouldn’t have to lose my family to do that.
Side notes: I’m very attractive according to lots of guys. I am not fat and I am very good when it counts in wink wink areas. I’m also a child from a divorced family. I don’t believe in divorce. I think it destroys lives.