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To hold on to what I already have or to pursue something that might not exist?

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Hi. I'm currently a 25-year-old heterosexual female. My best friend, who is a female, is someone who accepts every single flaw that I have and still loves me for my true self. She isn't interested in men and seemed to be keen on living with me and even have the idea of adopting children with me. That means I would have to give up a heterosexual relationship - it may not be extremely fulfilling but I can live with that (what are the chances that I can find a man who can be a better friend that she is? Minute.) I'm left to face this decision for some time: to give in to her idea and hold on to what I already have or to put a line in between and break her heart to pursue something that might not exist. It's a tough call and I am totally clueless on what is the right thing to do. I'm hoping that someone can shine a different lights so that I won't feel so lost. For my sake and hers as well.

To hold on to what I already have or to pursue something that might not exist?

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Thank you for your comment. Really appreciate that. We've been best friends without being sexually involved for years. I could feel that she's trying to cross that line for a while but I expressed my repellence against that notion. She respects my thoughts but wanting to remain as our current status. To be honest, I'm still a virgin and can live off without a sexual life (at least I'm okay with it currently). But I worry that if we remain as what we are, there is bound to be a huge problem coming our way with regards to our friendship. But then again, she is such a great friend (perfect soulmate for me just born in the same gender) that might worth me not taking risk by putting myself out there and meet other men.

To hold on to what I already have or to pursue something that might not exist?

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Why promise her something you are so unsure of, since just you have not explored your own sexuality fully? Don’t confuse a deep personal friendship with your sexual preference. You can still be a good friend without feeling you have to give yourself completely to her. Because that’s what she will want if you give the message she wants to hear. Not fair to her - or you.

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