Am I being too mean?
I was with this man for 10 years and within that time. He went off and married a woman that he was cheating on me with, bought a house with her in GA and continued to interact with me like he was not living a double life.
My issue is that I became pregnant and had a very difficult and painful pregnancy and was bed ridden for 90% of the time. The entire time he was distant and down right nasty to me at times. He was always away "working" (he is a long haul truck driver). It was while I was pregnant that this woman called me to tell me that she was married to him and that she found my number in his phone. He told me that he didn't have to tell me anything as his "personal life, is his personal life and I should stay out of it". From then I decided to cut him off, but he kept coming back trying to explain to me that he married the lady because she was helping him stay in the country (mind you I am a natural born US citizen and I could have helped him, but he chose what he chose).
A month ago he got into a head on car collision in the state where the wife lives (although he told me that he was in the state that we live in), and is now has to go through 8 months of recovery in the home that he bought with the wife. I am finding it so hard to show him any sympathy at all. He video calls at least 2 times a day crying and complaining about all the pain that he is in and how the "wife" has left him to fend for himself and I just really don't care. Part of me wants to laugh in his face, but the other half feels bad for feeling this way about the situation. I find myself ignoring his calls at times and making excuses to get off the phone when he starts crying about the pain.
Am I wrong for the way that I feel? Should I handle this another way?
It’s OK to turn your back on a liar and manipulator and someone who wasn’t there for you when you were down.
Give yourself permission to totally cut him off!
You know, you really should go ahead laugh in his face. Seriously, it might help him recover from being such an A-Hole. I hope you're getting child support from him because if he can afford a house he can afford to pay for his child.
you should block him on phone, video and any social media you be friends. this guy is beyond useless to you. move on and find a decent lover or lovers.
I don’t think you should feel bad at all. He made his bed and now he should lay in it!
Look at it this way, if he didn’t get into the accident how would he be treating you?