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I feel like my small group leader dislikes me

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when I saw her at church last sunday and said hi she just waved and said good morning in reply to me saying hi instead of saying hi back. What does that mean when someone says good morning in reply to me saying hi? Also after service I walked towards her but she just left. Also at the end of small group when the taxi comes early and people are socializing she says your taxis here and gets up to open the door and asks to walk me out and keeps saying it after I say it’s early. I feel like she just wants me to leave and doesnt want me there. Also the whole time after a bunch of people left and it was just me and this other girl there she basically ignored me the whole time and just talked to this other girl and when her ex showed up whispered my ex is here and it looked like she was talking to just her but leaving me out. And when I asked a question she did not respond but just looked at her phone and said ohh. Also when I left and asked for a hug and hugged her she said yes but it felt very awkward, short and tense. Why? Do you think she dislikes me and doesn’t think of me as a friend?

I feel like my small group leader dislikes me

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Hello Ashlash12:

When it was just you, the other girl and the small group leader and she ignored you the whole time, talking to the other girl but not to you, that was rude of her. Regardless of whether she likes you or not, it is rude to ignore a person's presence.

Maybe you can tell her that you feel bad when you are there but ignored, ask her why she ignored you...?

anita

I feel like my small group leader dislikes me

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You seem to want the attention of this woman and are very sensitive to her actions around others, compared to you.

Can you say what it is about wanting to please her so?

I feel like my small group leader dislikes me

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She should be trying to make you feel welcome, as she is the group leader. Small groups are about inclusion, and it sounds like the lead spot should go to someone who gets that.

That said, in life, not everyone is going to like you. And that's okay. It doesn't mean you're not a good person or anything like that. It simply means we're all human, with differences, like and dislikes. Is there a reason you're focusing on the leader instead of your peers? Have you tried making friends with the kids in the group, or are you so focused on this person's behavior that you're isolating yourself from the group entirely? Again- as your leader, she should not ignore anyone. But you can't control her behavior, only your reaction to it.

In general, you shouldn't waste time and energy worrying about anyone that doesn't like you. Chasing after people that don't welcome you isn't healthy, and it just pushes people further away. Try focusing more in yourself, and the connections that come more easily. It's perfectly normal to want your elders to like you, but not everyone in a leadership role deserves your attention.

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