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Hi! I need advice, i think I have a problem I have a partner which is in Moment in another country better said for half an year, he didn’t have to go but is really good money there, and he decided he will give a try. I am here all alone trying to be strong, my biggest fear is to be alone... I feel that I don’t want to live anymore that nothing make me happy, I feel like I am here for no reason, my boyfriend loves me but more I become depressed more I drink and I loose myself in that bad habit and when I drink I am loosing as well self control whatsoever. I feel like I am most a attractive I feel like making out with other men. Next morning I wake up and I feel so shity what I have done last night, I am regreting Problem is I cheated on my boyfriend before while being drunk and I confessed him and I told him what I have done I felt awful, but now he is again away and I Got drunk last night and I again cheated on him. I don’t want to loose him if I confess again I will damaged him, if not that I damage myself with regrets, I love him but I don’t want to destroy his life I don’t want to drink I don’t want to live anymore like that alone and he is gone ... I feel like I don’t even now what I am doing anymore, can I be mentally ill I drink maybe 2x a week but I lose control all the time ... and it’s horrible should I leave him though we are planning family together and I know if I stop drinking I will never cheat on him again. I am scared when I loose him it will be more bad then now. I love him but I don’t know why I drink and why I cheat... I feel like another person is taking control on my body . Like I am totally someone else when I drink careless, awful person. Please help me someone 1: Tell him, and damaged him, 2: stop drinking and don’t tell him so he will be happy and by time I will be happy as well. 3: break up with him without telling him the truth. What I think is very cowardly option

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Perhaps you are not ready for an LD relationship. They are very stressful for young people who are at the prime of their curiosity of the opposite sex and their own sexual feelings. Your BF is also being tempted where he is. Have you talked to him about this? Drinking lessens inhibitions. So what you normally would not do sober is often acted upon when drunk. This includes more than being with other guys. You may say things you regret, drive drunk, or put yourself in harms way. You should look at your drinking history and see if you are having blackouts ( memory loss or not know what you are doing. ) when you drink. Guilt and shame are bothering you so it’s time to figure out what to do to make yourself feel better and fulfilled. It may be both dating other guys and stopping drinking alcohol.

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I am 26, I LIVE somewhere Where It doesn’t really make me happy. My BF, is very good guy I think the best guy what I had till now, but yes I am curious about mine own sexuality I don’t think I am fully satisfied with him. I tried to talk, to solve the problem but he can’t change who he is and I can’t change myself either. I am scared to be alone, I truly prefer to be with someone who can give me life of happiness and love then with someone just for one night. I think problem is Alkohol and the place where I currently am. I am scared to go away, because my current BF is from here and if I go away to place where is my family I don’t think I am going to be able to meet him offen how I want when he come back. On one hand I want to change something in my life and on other I am scared I will regret that, and I won’t again find such a good and loving BF. Thank you for your advice

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Have you ever been alone - on your own with your own apartment and career? Sounds like you went right from family home to being with someone. Now he is not there, and you are afraid of being alone. So you drink to take away the fear and get courage. And your actions when drinking cause you to have more fear and guilt. It's a vicious cycle. No wonder you have anxiety. Time to sit down with a female counselor and figure out these fears and how you are going to function. You cannot count on a man to take care of you and provide security. That's not fair to him, either. Do you want to be a capable, fearless woman?

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Please please talk to a counselor, that is all very destructive behaviour and could lead to worse things if you don't get the proper help.

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do you believe your long distance boyfriend is not cheating on you? i dont. you crave other men because you are a normal healthy 26 year old girl. you are using alcohol as a mask for your true feelings. as long as you open with your affair partner that you have a long distance boyfriend and lonely so only want a friend with benefits no harm done. make sure to protect yourself from pregnancy and STD. you may well find that your affair partner is a better match than your far away boyfriend. there is no need to feel bad or tell your boyfriend who may never come back to you. your life is totally miserable alone in a place you don't want to be. let go and enjoy yourself. i feel strongly that is what your LD boyfriend is doing. you are too young to be a live alone lonely miserable person waiting for something that probably will never happen.

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So I did nôt go straight from my parents to live with my boyfriend and I don’t expect him to take care about me I am very self capable woman I am taking care of myself from my 16 years when my mum went to work abroad as well. And I had to care for my sister and my grandmother etc. So I was a lot of time alone at my childhood I think that might be problem why I am so scared to be alone because I was alone all my life and it didn’t make me happy. I love my family and friends and I love to spend time with them. But I live in other place like then I am one hour from my mum what is not so bad but I live in mountains and there is not so much staff to do. I live here because I have a good paid job here and my BF. Which is now abroad but he is originally from here. I think best think for me will be definitely stop drinking and focus on something else, I decided to don’t tell him at least not now, I want to wait when he will come back and then see what it will be like. How will be feelings, He is soldier so he is locked in the camp with no women, so I don’t think he is cheating on me but is definitely easier for him to be faithful then for me when my feelings are already colder and I everyday meet someone new and interesting our conversation is not very fulfilling either we just write abou when we went sleep and how I work... I am still not sure what make me happy thank you guys for every advice I appreciate it very much

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