RED UMBRELLA - Aug 2 2018 at 00:07
Thinking of walking away from a long distance relationship as I’ve not seen him in person 2 years but we regularly txt. I love him so much but feel like I’m wasting my time he has said to me before when I tried to break it off there’s always that what if feeling he has and he has put that into my head. I tried the no contact rule before he always manages to contact me and my feelings go back to square one. Help what should I do?
Hi I can't say what you should and shouldn't do but its a tricky one I can only say that if it's making you unhappy and you feel it isn't ever going to work out then that's up to you to decide if it's really worth it? It's a long time
To not be seeing a person you want to have a relationship with 2 years? Wow! I know its hard when you get feelings for someone but maybe you could still keep in touch as friends? Instead of parting ways do you mind answering my question? :)
Red Umbrella, have you ever met this guy in person? Have you just been talking over text for the entire 2 years?
It's impressive if your texting has stayed regular for that long.
The problem is that long-term relationships...they only really work if you have a plan for eventually meeting, and both make an effort to work towards something more practical together. I had an online buddy who talked to a woman from Vietnam. They seemed to get on well, but I doubt they ever met or had any realistic plans of ever meeting. By contrast, my ex an I lived a couple hours' drive apart and met up at public spots a couple of times over one Summer, before cementing plans to move in together. If it's something you can realistically carry on then take the next step. If it isn't, it likely never will be.
Determine how much this person and your time together means to you. If they live close enough that you can work out a realistic plan for one day having something more serious, then you can pursue it. If they live too far and you don't have that kind of patience or money, then maybe it's time to be an adult and get realistic about the situation.
Thank you so much for your reply’s it means a lot. I kept it brief initially in my txt as it’s a lot more complicated than not seeing each other for 2 years I’ve known this person for a lot longer our ‘relationship’ started in early 2014 we’ve been intimate and met up a few times last time being 2 years ago we’ve both got kids from other relationships and it’s just been really hard to arrange time together plus . He is also in the military and deployed alot and we live over 2hrs away.
There has been times wer we’ve not been In contact for a month or so mostly because I call it if off as its going no where and frankly I’m bored of the txting and needed more and in that time he actually got someone pregnant he told me that the girl is the type that if he gets into the new relationship she will make it difficult to see his kids.
When I cut it off and try to get closure he always manages to contact me from some kind of social media that I’ve not blocked him from and starts off asking how I am and he always loves me etc it just really messes with my head and it’s frustrating because I do love him and do want to be with him. I’ve never felt like this about anyone in my life. But he can’t have the best of both worlds. How can I move on from this what can I do. I’ve not spoke with him for 2 weeks now as I told him I would contact him when I’m ready, but I miss him and think about him so much.