How to get over someone you've only texted with fast
REALLYCONFUSED - Aug 6 2018 at 22:26
So, to not make the back story way too long and boring, there's a guy I met online around 2 years ago and texted with A LOT since we met. We have not met since we live in different countries really far away from each other, but still we became really close really fast. In the beginning we were sort of dating, or at least I'm pretty sure we both had feelings for each other. Anyway, obviously we both knew it would never work, I sorta left him for another guy and later he met a girl who he's now been dating for around 1,5 years.
The problem is I've now started having feelings for him again... and idk even tho he still has a girlfriend we flirted with each other in sort of a way... I at least sent him a lot of pictures and he wrote me erotic stories and promised he would come and visit me one day. He's a really charming guy and I know he loves his girlfriend so because of this I decided we needed a break from each other. Most for me to stop having feelings for him and because it was too hurtful to hear him talk about his girl. I told him about how I felt but layed it out as a crush. I told him I was gonna stop talking with him, it was an extremely heartbreaking thing to do and I'm really wondering if it was the right thing. Now I really want to get over him quick because I miss only being his friend.
I just don't know what to do to get over him and stay away the urge to text him.
if he lives so far away from you - then just stop yourself of texting him. He is a good guy obvuisly - he hasn't hurt you in any way (at least you haven't mentioned) but keep on promising you that he has feelings for you and this hurts you -then this is kind of hurting you in some way. You have to either stop any conversation with him for the next months or go visit him till the end of August so you know if it is worth it or not (only if you both are not in a relationship!)
I'm 100% sure he doesn't have feelings for me, or well, at least for now since he used to have before. But still he sends mixed signals, he can sometimes be very sweet to me and the other day be like an annoying big brother and I'm really not sure what he sees me as specially when he has a girlfriend and acts so different all the time. He says I'm special to him and stuff, and I believe that by special in what way?!
I won't text him now for at least 2 months I think and I'll text him again and see how it goes. I don't know if the thought of meeting him in the future could become a reality or if it's just a dream, he promised me he would visit tho but that's probably just something he said. Or? And I'm scared that even if he somehow broke up with his girlfriend he wouldn't want me back which would even hurt me more.
Anyways thanks so much for the answers! Really needed to ventilate about this.