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Relationship advice I was recently dumped by a 7 months boyfriend. He was very nice, loved me so much, and cared for me as hell. But one day he couldn't be there for me when I really needed someone because he was at work. We were doing a long distance thing for 2 months, and I am still across the globe. I said "I hate you you're not worth it". And he tried contacting me for the next 12 hrs and I ignored his texts. At the end of the day I tried apologizing after I was settled down. He said that he can't take it anymore, and he can't be so emotionally committed to someone and have them tell him these things. So he dumped me over text.

I'm sure that it's not someone else, but he isn't someone who says things without thinking or lightly. I begged him over the phone and texted him so much for a little over a week now, right after he ended things with me. He then told me that him being there for me isn't doing me best at getting over him, and that I shouldn't text him for the next week. We are seeing each other when I go back to town, since I have to give him some stuff back and he has to give me some stuff, as well. I want to get things done then. I won't text him till I get back, which is for another 2 weeks, since that's what he wants. But I have apologized, and he has said that he knows that I did not mean it when I said it. What else could I possibly do or say when we finally see each other again in person for the first time in 2 months to get him to take me back?

How would you deal with this crisis?

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Sorry to hear you are going through a tough time. I don't have a hard and fast answer, my personal advice is to avoid contacting him, as he has requested and you are doing. This will give you both the time to think through exactly what you want.


When you do meet up don't beg him to go back with you, tell him you still love him and would like another chance but that will respect his decision. If you think the meeting will be too difficult, keep it short but write a letter and put in in with his stuff, in the letter tell him exactly how you feel, let him know that you accept that he would of been there for you if he was able to but you were emotional and didn't react very well. Make it clear in the letter that whether or not he responds to it is up to him.


I hope it all works out for you

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Seven months is not s long time - with 2 months apart included? That’s not enough time for someone to know when and how to “be there” for someone,( especially a guy and LD, at that) It may be too late to salvage this, but you can text him and tell him you’d like to talk about what happened when you pick up your things - in perso, face to face.

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