My partner is disrespectful
I just wanted to share me recent experience and just get some reassurance I’ve done the right thing
I was seeing my partner for just under 2 years and finally did what I’ve thought of doing for a while and called it a day.
A catalog of things have happened since we stated going out I challenged them but couldn’t forget. My ex would always take his friends and ex wife’s part even if disrespectful towards me.
Just to clarify me ex is 47 so in my opinion he should grow up. Anyway he told me that one of his friends had told him not to bring me camping again as I hadn’t smoked pot and ruined the camping... that was the beginning of events.
I went out one evening with him and a friend to have his friend tell him I’d trust issues when he’d disappeared for ages and I became worried. Thing was I actually was only worried. My ex let this other mate mix me a bottle of trouble.
I’d gone to bed one evening when the same friend was staying over after an evening out. I got up in the middle of the night to find the shoes and handbag of my partners ex in his living room. He’d invited her round to bed his friend. Obviously I was fuming.
There’s are a number of incidents but the crux is no matter what I’d be upset about eg is ex wife of 10 years walking through his house when I was there laughing and joking with his family like I was invisible he’d class me as being stupid. And when he begrudgingly asked the ex wife to stop wandering through his house if I was there she thought I was retarded. Anyway final straw came on Friday. He’d gone out with the friend who I’ve talked about earlier mixing me a bottle and didn’t come home. I txt him and he read the text I’d asked him if he was home at 3am. He was going to mine early the next morning but didn’t show. Turns out he and 4 males went round to a girls house, told me he’d watched porn and the woman and the other 3 men took drugs. This one mate also asks him to get coke for him which infuriated me. But I was told that I don’t tell him what to do. Anyway I was upset as he’d told me on the one other occasion this woman was very touchy feely with him. Anyway I’ve had enough now so called it a day. He says he loves me but the play does for his stupidity have finally taken their toll. He’s told me I need help and I’m mad. I just want reassurance I’ve done the right thing as he’s made me doubt myself at times. Sorry for the long winded story. There are other things that have happened. But I’m sure I’ve bored you enough.
it definitly doesn't sound like a very good and healthy relationship. Respect and trust are the most important things that connect partners and if you're not happy then it was the right call to get out of there. If the bad overweighs the good for a long time then it is better to break up. As a 47 year old man he shouldn't take drugs mindlessly and disrespecting his girlfriend in that way is unacceptable. You did the right thing
Thank you for your reply. I feel I’ve done the right thing. Even though he’s made me out to be over reacting and paranoid.