Hi I am new to this.
Been with bf 3 yrs.
He has always loved playing game console.Bit over last 6 months he stays up all night playing.
I work shifts.He comes to bed in the early hours of the morning wakes me up.
Bearing in mind some days I need to be up at 7 he comes to bed at 4 or 5 touches me pulls my hand to his private parts expecting me to be in the mood to be intimate.
He never touches me tenderly or takes part in foreplay.I work to support both of us.I feel he only wants me for money I buy his tobacco he smokes cannabis I pay for this and keep a roof over his head.
I love him.
He has anxiety and I think adult adhd I have supported him to get help for his issues of which there are many.advice please
I understand you love him. And this isn't meant to be harsh, but he clearly doesn't love you. He is using you. That's not going to change as long as you allow him to keep doing it.
Time for a break, at least. You deserve better, and it's time to stand up for yourself. Either he figures out how to adult, or it's time you both move on.
I loved my husband of 24 years with all my heart. That doesn't mean it was okay for him to ignore me, expect me to take care of him and the house, then want sex centered only around his needs. So I left. It wasnt easy. But it made room in my life for people that are good to and for me. I only wish I'd left sooner. He acts exactly the same as a single dude as he did the whole time we were married. You don't have a bf or partner. You have a child that won't grow up as long as he's getting what he wants.
Thank tou for your advice.
The situation is ridiculous.
We are more like flatmates although he pays for nothing.
I had a one night stand last year.
Although he forgave he won't forget says another man would have split up with me.
It wasn't my intention to sleep with the guy he made me feel attractive and desirable.I hadn't felt like that for a while.my bf found out he texted the guy pretending to be me.The guy gave him advice to treat me better but my bf hasnt really taken it
He checks my phone secretly.
He has threatened a guy ivused to know.
Hechas been talking to girls half my age and was arrested for having obscene communication with a minor.
He was messaging a 14 yr old he thought she was 21 as that was age on her profile.
He was messaging her while I was at work or asleep.
We are waiting to her if any further action will be taken.
He said he doesn't know what he said to her as he was playing his game and would pause it to talk to girls.
He accusses me of doing stuff behind his back.said i committed the ultimate sin by cheating on him.
Did your husband have any mental health issues
Seriously. Why are you even with him. Unwillingness to grow up isn't a mental health issue. It's a selfish brat issue. And you're enabling his behavior. If you're expecting anything to change, you're going to be even more disappointed than you currently are.
Loving someone does not give them a free pass to treat you like garbage. If you continue to allow it, you need to ask yourself why. Because until you figure out why you want to be with a selfish teenager instead of an adult, you'll just keep ending up where you are now.
Don't wait til you're 50, like I did. Break the cycle now. You deserve better, and he deserves to figure out how to adult on his own. If he's like my ex, he'll refuse to grow up, and just find someone else to use. Either way, you need to let him go.