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Wedding??? Fiance aloof and baby on the way. What should I do?

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Relationship advice Yes so let me tell u my story.
So about mid july i found out i was pregnant me and my boyfriend of 9 years. We were planning on getting married later this year in december and were happy about the baby we just did not want anyone to think we were getting married for that sole purpose. So he asked my dad for my hand and he said yes but we had talked to his parents and they new about the plan to get married not the baby. And were planning to do a formal dinner with my family. However his dad the day before got drunk and came to spill everything to my parents in a very disrespectful manner. My parents were upset and asked me i was like me and my boyfriend talked about it but no date set yet.
That was how the whole ordeal started after that we decided on a date and my parents were fighting and calling me a trator and at the back off my mind wanted to tell them about the baby. At this time my boyfriend had taken out a loan to get married, finished the house with appliances we picked out. After thou we started the wedding planning and my mom kept on pressing and pressuring us fr awnsers so i eventually told her i was pregnant in front of my boyfriend he acted as if he did not know got upset and stated he had enough of my parents and wanted to punish them by cancelling the wedding i could not understand y he was so upset. He said i was being controlled by my parents and i was just trying to be honest.
I felt alone he messaged my father that the wedding was off and then told me he is thinking all he wanted was to for us to plan the wedding our way but kept feeling stressed and picked on now im the only girl in my family.
So i understand my parents concern.
My parents are supportive but im not sure if he comes bk and says i want to marry u or not im not sure i feel alone, apart from that my parents are like we knew it but the way they confront u is like they are mocking u. Not sure what to say or do. My boyfriend is acting like he just found out when we went to appointments together talked about marrying before the baby to hv a home. I jus feel betrayed

Wedding??? Fiance aloof and baby on the way. What should I do?

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Why don’t you two elope? Go away and come back married.

Finish the house and get ready for your baby.

The hell with everyone else.

Wedding??? Fiance aloof and baby on the way. What should I do?

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this relationship is poison. how can your boyfriend act this way? your wedding should be for you not your family. something drastically wrong with him keep acting surprised every time the pregnancy is mentioned. sounds like he did not want marriage or child and is running scared. don't be surprised when he disappears.

Wedding??? Fiance aloof and baby on the way. What should I do?

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Thank you,well according to him he had enough of my mother primarily badgering him as if she does not want to get married and how to plan the wedding. When its suppose to be us which it was onky thing my parents asked was instead of outdoors to do it inside due to increasing rain. Trust me i was appauled by his actions as well he jus im not sure my parents have treated him like this meaning have not talked with him or anything since we started going out. My mother wanted the wedding in december we could not waot that long due to the babu and thats why pushed the date earlier, but they could not understand why. However, made it impossible for me to tell them why alone. My dad was ok but my mom was the one that although understanding kept on badgering, but instead of him backing me upon being asked he got mad i told him its us not them. He said he woukd called it off called it off and told me he was just upset. Like i said he just left me alone after knowing which hurt me.

Wedding??? Fiance aloof and baby on the way. What should I do?

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After 9 years, you should know this guy.

Does he acts like this at conflict issues all the time?

Or is he stressed out due to getting married, remodeling a house, and a baby on way, plus meddling in laws?

Wedding??? Fiance aloof and baby on the way. What should I do?

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Yes i do believe he is stressed i try to calm him down and give him space. All he wants is to start a family and be with me and the baby, even i have stress lingering but have to suck it up for the baby. He only acts like this in under extreme stress plus his job has so much too. Was suppose to be the day we do our wedding invitations, but well.

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