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My husband and myself have been having problems for some time. i found out he had looked at porn again when he said he would stop but didn't. we had been arguing alot and it got to the point i was wondering if to divorce him. he said he wants to work at it and doesn't want to lose me so we have been talking and getting on ok. anyway its our daughters birthday this weekend. he as bought her the gifts because i am not working. he pays the rent, food, bills etc. but when ive had money i have bought food, things for the house and gifts for our children. i was looking for the gifts to wrap up and he had taken them out of my cupboard. he said he was going to say they were just from him. i couldn't believe he would do such a thing. if i had bought the gifts i still would of said they were from the both of us. he said he was being childish and because of the way we had been. he also said, would i say they were from us both if we were going to split up. i said i would and we could of just pretended we were ok just for her birthday but she would find out anyway if we were to split up. he as said he is sorry and it was how he just felt at that point. when ive bought gifts or ornament's i have never asked him for the money. i had £10.000 last year from my mother as a gift. its all gone but i paid for 2 holidays, bought stuff for the home and gifts for the kids at xmas, i didn't ask him for any of it back but he chose to. he said it was money for me off my mother and he should be paying for stuff not me. i feel so angry and upset that he would of just said the gifts were from him. so does he see the house we rent together as just his and everytime he buys a gift now he will be thinking its only off him because its his money he is using. i thought when you were married it was, whats yours is mine, whats mine is yours. doesn't seem like in his case. am i right to be angry or his he just a petty child who wants to be in control. he said he doesn't but i think he does.

Who is in the right?

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He is in the wrong. I believe once you are married that finances should be pooled together. You aren't roommates splitting up everything. BUT that is just my point of view! I think he is being childish. He doesn't mind when its your money. But when it's his money, he wants the control of it. That's very said that he had to be like that over the presents for your daughter. If he felt like this, he should have said something before or after. Not during that special time for her.

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