Long time no success
I'm a 31 years old woman. never married, I'm a legal advisor and a super skilled professional with master degree in Law, I came from a middle up level family,always wellfaired, my father is a great supportive, everybody says that I;m beautiful (well to be honest think so too).
I have experienced a lots of unsuccessful datingas and relationship whiich moslty they left me.
I know that I was partially responsible for some of them, but I'm seriously frustrated that no matter how hard i tried, it never worked out.
I'm sad these days, most of my friend are haviiing children but I'm still single and 3 years of no relationship.
I tried to be socially active and to be honest I've been actiive 50% of the time.
I'm getting more and more hopeless everyday that pass.
I would like to know your advices and opinions and even your experiences.
Please kindly respond.
Do you have female friends? A special “best” friend? Family that you spend time with?
Somehow you may be giving off vibrations that you are “untouchable” or not approachable. Do you think you are friendly enough and smile alot, or prefer to be alone?
Yes I think i'm not that frowny but to be honest my face is serious due to the fact that i have tried many times to smile and this way men usually think that u want to hit on them so they keep them as far as possible from you. U know these days in my country and city girls are the one hiting on mems and boys and seduce them to spend money or even on rhe contrary, girls spend money for boys ro keep them in the relationship and i've seen it with my pwn eyes many tomes, deep insode i sometimes doubt that it's because men know exactly that i'm not gonna spend money for them ( i mean the way i only be the one to support the relationship financialy) and second the figure it out most of the time that i'm undecievable, butttttttt this could not mean that the right ppl are not out there, am i wrong?? But still i hear everyday the voices im ma head that mens in my country have changes amd they are now pure abusers, about my female friend i should tell you that i had few but i left them one by one due to their undorgivable actions; one robbed me, one is basically a married girl cheating on her husband, one offend me with really harah words one day, and now no.... i don't have female friends, i look around my classmates and my colleagues all i see is either spoiled stupid girls or the one who are not interested in finding new friends cause they already have feww feiena on their own, so i still have no idea what is going to happen , and i'm really sad
Something i habe to tell you, inside i am so angry with eberybody all the tome , but usually i try to not showing it,, do u think is it possible that my feelings send wrong energy ??? But i'm usually a logical person i don't believe in energies , but u appoin some important things,, i don't have female friends, but how its related to find a right men ???
It sounds like you are not a people person - for either male or females. Yet, you want to have relationships now. That’s a good sign.
You also recognize that you are angry at people - whether they deserve it or not. Is there a feeling of general distain for others? And you have the perception that others have an ulterior motive, and are out to use you or be dependent on you? So your guard is up and isolation seems to be the only way to survive.
All this might be a sign of depression. Or an upbringing where you frlt “I never got mine, so no one else should get there’s”
Or it could be as simple as you are in the wrong place. If it’s commin that women use men and vice versa, then move away from that environmrnt or even that country.
In any case, I applaude you for recognizing your own unhappiness and wanting to do something about it. Consider counseling with an older female who can mentor you for the future.