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Other advice I am just wondering what I should do going forward.

Growing up I was mostly kept inside by overprotective parents and played video games in my room by myself. When I got into high school I made some good friends that always invited me to do things and dragged me around places. I even dated a girl for four years, and we lived together for a while, but eventually broke up.

When I graduated from college I moved 1000 miles away from home to take a well paying full time job. I didn't bother keeping in touch with anyone. I can say without exaggeration that I now have zero friends. I never leave my house except for work. When I get home I just play video games and watch anime until I go to sleep.

I remember if I spent too much time with other people I would get unreasonably grumpy/angry. I could never enjoy family camping trips because I could never get away from people.

I don't feel sad or depressed, and I enjoy my hobbies. I always feel like I SHOULD be doing something different with my life, but there is nothing that I really want to do. I never tire of things, and could probably play the same games for the rest of time. I have been considering finding a job in my hometown, so I could at least be around my family and try to rekindle some old friendships.

Should I move home? Would that change me at all? Is there anything wrong with me or my lifestyle?

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There’s only something “wrong” if you think there is.

It sounds like you want to connect with people - somewhat. You say you have hobbies. Is there a group of people who might share that same passion? You must reach out to them. Make it a goal to find at least one friend within the next month. A live person, not on- line.

There’s nothing wrong about wanting to be alone, as long as you aren’t lonely. Sounds like you might be.

Actually, that’s a good sign. Creative people make moves out of need.

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