Trying to apologize
Ok, first of all, i'm sorry for my bad english, i'll try to be clear.
I'm lost, absolutly lost. My gf and I spent the day together, she was like... welll. in a bad mood, lets say a REALLY bad mood, and many things happened. So 1 hour ago we were saying good night, but then she said she want to apologize for being a B****, i replied "u are not that, and u dont have to apologize" and i kissed her. And then she got upset at me for say this.
I just don't get it, i'm missing somthing. I asked her why she got mad at my answer but she wont tell me, in fact, she told me to go ask to someone because is pretty obvious.
So here i am. Why it is bad to say "u dont have to say sorry, u dont have to say anything" and give a hug or kiss when someone is trying to apologize? I feel very stupid 'cos i dont understand it. My intention was not bad at all, what i meant is: "i do understand, bad days happens, i love u and ur intention to say sorry is enough by itself to fix everything, there is no need to go further"
Sounds strange, and you are right, it doesn't sound as though you should know what the heck she is getting upset for.
On the basis of what you have described, it could be a ploy. It could be that she doesn't want sympathy, she wants you to 'see that she IS a bitch' and wants you to call off the relationship because she can't do it, or the other thing I was thinking, is she hasn't fully explained why she believes or wants you to believe she is a 'bitch' - maybe she is t telling you everything - has she perhaps cheated on you, but she knows that actually you are a really decent guy, but she hasn't got the guts to tell you, so she is shouldering all the deceit on her own.
Don't go in heavy handed - perhaps new information will unfold over the next week or two, and become much more clear. Be open minded about what the problem is, and you will find the answer...
Dont know if its too late to reply on this but there's a chance that she has someone else in her lyf and she feels guilty about it and when you kissed her she felt bad coz she isnt probably honest herself.
Also, its just one of the possibilities(i m not being judgemntl u see..)