I find that every now and then when I get anxious about his money issues, I start to go online and look for other men. He, of course, has no idea so I know what I'm doing is wrong and I feel guilty (as I should).
He assures me that my concerns are or will be addressed and sometimes they are. However, in the last round he assured me he completely changed financially because of my help and while I know he is paying his bills, I also know he can do so because he is using money that he inherited (which he is draining to pay his bills and there isn't that much left). Did he really change from not paying his cards when he couldn't afford it then?
He works and collects social security so there is more than enough money to pay his regular bills and have some money left over for entertainment and the like. I often have been paying for his meals and other things so that he doesn't have to use his funds on me and it is somewhat equal. He has been saving a small amount each month in a money market, as I suggested, but that doesn't amount to much more than $200/month.
My other non-negotiable is that he preserve what's left in the inherited funds in case he needs it. I asked recently about the money left over and he said, he started "moving the money" over to his own account (since it was left in trust due to his debt history) and I assumed that meant he would add those funds to the money market account, not just spend it. He has also maintained his long term care insurance.
I feel that there is no way to move the relationship forward unless I am comfortable with this issue since he wants to live with me very soon (and I would too under "normal" circumstances). On the other hand, each time we break up, I miss him terribly and so does he.
What do I do?
It means half of the left-over money go in your account and the other half go in your bf.'s account. The basement of the good relationship is the clean business between you and your bf. I would hardly suggest to talk about this possibility with your b.f.
I am quite curious what will be the outcome of your conversation about this possibility.
In case your bf.is not open for this solution I would simply divorce from him. You can have in the future a much more fair bf. who will not steal your common montly left-over money.
Wish you a good luck.
I hope this helps in someway!!!
I wish you the best of luck
How do I trust him if he can lie to me about this?
You have posted SO many times on this site and other advice sites about this same issue with this same dude.
Are you a bot?
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