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In a relationship for five years and teenage kids refuse to meet me

I am a single mom who raised three wonderful successful children (28,23,19). I met the love of my life 6 years ago. He taught me what a supportive, romantic, and loving man he can be. But his children have always refused to meet me. In the beginning it was because they were young now because they are spoiled teenagers and always want daddy to do everything from clothes shopping, cutting their hair, to buying school spplies, the mom doesn’t work but nevertheless he has to do everything with them. These kids are 24,22,17. Two are in college but still expect daddy to drive three hours to go shopping with them. I know these are tactics to keep him away from me, but I’m just so frustrated now. I am never allowed to attend functions, bdays, or gathering of any sort. Holidays are always with them. We were supposed to move in this December but the youngest told him no!!! She still needs him so he could not commit to me. He told me my daughter comes first, and she will always come first!!! He said if I was an understanding woman I wouldn’t pressure him to move in. Am I wrong in feeling hurt, hearing that I’m last in his priorities???

In a relationship for five years and teenage kids refuse to meet me

Yes, but after 5 years, you are not going to remedy this. His children DO come first. It’s not going to get better - there will be weddings ( you not invited) then grandchildren ( you won’t be allowed to see) He never gave himself permission to move on. He let his children determine his life. Pity. Move on. You deserve better!

In a relationship for five years and teenage kids refuse to meet me

I agree with SUSIEDQQ. It sucks, and you have a right to be frustrated. It's literally his choice, though. The childten rule his life because he allows them to. And he doesn't care how that impacts you. Love is never enough to make a relationship work. It takes commitment. He's made it clear who he's committed to. If that doesn't work for you, it is time to move on. You deserve better.

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