Been best friends with someone in work for over 2 years. He was in a relationship but not happy, he sadly got her preganant and then found out she had cheated on him throughout their relationship so ended it. We got even closer as I was there for him and we become romantically involved. The baby is now 3 months old things have been hard for him with limited access but he says things are too much and it was a strain on us as he couldn’t make me happy with thinking of the baby and not having a home anymore so ended it in December. He has feelings still but due to his head being all over the place he can’t commit to making me happy and scared he will let me down. We have met up and we want to be in each other’s lives try and get some friendship again but it’s hard. I don’t want to lose him and he doesn’t want to lose me but can’t commit to anything at the minute. We care about each other so much.
He’s now “Free” (divorced) and cannot have a relationship with you?
A 3 month old baby is not high maintenance. He’s using that as an excuse.
Something else is going on. There’s a good chance you were used all that time and/or he’s seeing other women.
Thanks for your reply
The problems he’s struggling with is his ex beast feeds so he can’t have anytime with the baby without going her house. He’s struggling not spending as much time with her as he would like. I began to get on at him as you would which has caused even more stress for him and resulted in him ending it due to him not being in a good place and not making me happy with some of his decisions. We have been so close as friends so it’s so different than a normal relationship when a friendship is involved.. argh why aren’t things simple haha..