Relationship advice. Man's point of view on having affair for 4 years
Relationship advice. Looking for a man's point of view. I am in a relationship with a married man. we both know it is wrong. We work together. We talk everyday outside of work. We have been in this relationship for 4 years. i never call him.
He always calls me. He ended it once before after 2 years. We still talked everyday outside of work. Sometimes for hours. After 4months he started the relationship again. I have fallen in love with him. would he continue this relationship for 4 years if i didn't mean anything to him? Is it possible this is just about the sex?
There is no way after that amount of time he does not have feelings for you. But if he loved you how you love him he would have left her for you a long time ago. Unfortunately your in a tough spot tho because he has been able to have his cake and eat it too for a long time. He knows you won’t out him to his wife and therefor his love is with you both. He will do everything in his power to keep the relationship as is. He may feel bad for his wife or love her in a way he can’t love you but if you tell her about the affair he will resent you and your relationship will most likely end. If you leave him then he may just accept that it’s over and you may lose him as well. I’m my opinion your best move is to tell him you love him and that you want to be with him. Gauge his reaction to this and take it from there. It’s been my experience as a guy that unless I am forced to make a decision i would just let things be as they are if they are working.