So confused and need insight about friend
MOONCHILD - Feb 24 2019 at 08:05
I have a friend of the opposite sex and we've known each other for about a year. We met anonymously online and started out venting about our bad marriages and divorce processes. In the year we've been talking, which has been almost on a daily basis (throughout the whole day) we'd just talk and help each other through whatever new issues arose. We live in the same city but only recently decided to meet face to face, and when we did we both enjoyed being around each other as just friends. I cannot stress enough that our entire friendship has been based around being just friends. No expectations of anything more.
Well, after the last time we hung out he has started saying he loved me as a friend and person, not in a romantic way, and I told him I got it, he didn't have to add the "not in a romantic way" part because I didn't desire that from him, but he still says it like that. What makes me even more confused though is... he says I saved his life when depression was getting the worse of him, only I can make him smile, feel happy and make him feel loved (again, only said in context of friends), and that he wants me to be involved in his life forever. He wants to grow close to my daughter and think of her as his own because he has no kids but wants them. That doesn't bother me, he's a really great guy, but when he says some things like I gave as examples above it just leaves me wondering what's in his head because at this point I just don't get it.
I should point out he kissed me unexpectedly when I was hanging out with him and the day after he said it would never work between us because he didn't feel that spark with me and we aren't compatible. When he says these things it admittedly hurts because now he has me thinking there's something wrong with me, and then he'll randomly say he wants to cuddle with me and all that.
I'd love any insight at all so I can try and make sense of what it is he wants. He has gone as far as saying he wants to date someone who'll understand just how close we are, then tell me how beautiful and wonderful I am. Please help, I'm so confused.
P.S. He was the first to state he didn't want a relationship with me and there was no way he'd ever be able to fall in love with me. Again, this was an unsolicited and unexpected confession from him.
Both divorces have been filed and pending the decrees.