I have been married to my husband for 5 years and I do love him very much . I always thought we had a great relationship but now I’m not too sure . Our sexlife used to be really great but then 2 years ago I had to have a total hysterectomy and since then I’m not wanting sex as much as I used to . I know my husband like quite a lot of sex but now I don’t like it more then once a week .
The thing is I caught him masturbating which I don’t really mind but the fact is ,I think it’s to turn him on ,he goes on secret dating websites ,I can I guess it’s to talk to other women . I don’t think it’s a particular woman ,just any . When I first found this ,I was really shocked and I now I can’t get it out of my head and I’m actually wondering if he really does love me as much as he says .
And I don’t know how to handle it ? Do I ask him about it ? Or do I just ignore it? But I can’t stop thinking about it .
When we first got together,he said to me ,the only reason he would split up with me is if I would cheat on him . Now I don’t know ,is what he is doing cheating? I know he never meets anyone .
Any advise would be very much appreciated!
As the saying goes " If he's not getting it at home; he'll get it elsewhere" You should discuss it with him; his sneaking on dating sites is not a good look; and needs to stop.. It's like playing with fire; eventually he will get burned. You may have to become 'creative" and more accommodating than once a week.
The most important thing is to "communicate about the entire situation, let him know how it makes you feel knowing he's possibly talking to other woman. Getting some counseling could not hurt. I believe he still loves you'