I have been with my partner for 7 years, we have just bought a house together and have recently moved in. I have been feeling the "7 year itch" lately but did not act on it until the weekend just gone. I had one too many to drink (i know its no excuse) and i went home with someone i met at the bar. We did not sleep together but things did happen, i feel guilty and really want to tell my partner but he has a temper and I'm scared of what will happen, i don't have anywhere else to live and I guess I'm scared he will move me out and leave me with nothing... someone please help i dont know what to do
Yea, you are correct, if you come clean then he probably will react badly and kick you out. But good on you for wanting to tell the truth, that's a step ahead of a lot of people in your situation.
I think this one is going to come down to your conscience.
Maybe have a quick think about a possible place to stay if you are going to tell the truth.
Those are things YOU need to work on before dumping anything on a guy you just bought a house with!
Explore your “restlessness” —- why? Scared? Got yourself into something you aren’t sure of? Financially stuck?
Drinking — does this happen often?
Flirting to the point of going home with a guy — not you, or thinking about it alot?
Maybe deep down you want BF to break up with you so you set this scenario up. Otherwise, a devoted GF doesn’t even look at other guys, much less go home with them.
Lots to think about here. Maybe counseling will help you figure things out.
And you'll stick with it because it's the path of least resistance, even letting things go too far. In this instance, buying a house together.
Ask yourself, why did you find yourself drinking somewhere without your partner, and going home with someone else? Why did you feel that 7-year itch? Honestly it's because you're not all in this relationship, or maybe you don't even want to be with anyone right now and long for independence and life on your terms.