I am in love with an escort
I met a girl about 2 months ago, actually it was on valentines day. This girl was an escort that i had a date with. Over the next few weeks i began seeing her almost every day. It was during that time where i fell hard in love with her. Knowing she was an escort who had a drug problem, i decided to tell her my feelings, and surprisingly she felt the same about me. So i lied to her and told her i was okay with what she did for money and continued to see her, we would go out occasionally but for the most part we would hang out in her motel room. Until one day she had been drinking and decided to go on a date to the room beside hers while i was there! We talked after and she told me that she wanted to stop escorting and just be with me. So, like any love struck fool would do, i moved her into my house to start a life together. About a week after she moved in i got curious and checked the escort ads and noticed that she posted one the night before, so i downloaded a free texting app and booked a date with her. She claimed she would never have gone through with it though and we talked all night about our feelings. Fast forward about a week and she started behaving differently, by going out at night while i would be in bed, although she did claim she was interviewing ladies for her escort agency which she still runs today. I started getting suspicious and decided to go through her texts ( i know i should not have broken her trust like that but i had to know) and discovered that on those night she was out, she was with men on dates. Naturally i confronted her about it today and she shut down, she wont talk to me, she wont look at me. I think she is embarressed about getting caught. Here is the tricky part, i know i should end things, but today is her first day with no drugs and i really love her and want her to be clean. My question for you is, do i help her get clean and sober and then end things? Do i end things now to avoid a potential relapse on her drugs? Or do i help her get clean, and see if it was her need for drugs that was making her act the way she did? I have never felt this way about another person in my whole life, i would die for her if i had to
what a difficult situation
Can I just ask - did you meet her when she was escorting? as in - did you hire her?
You have only known her a couple of months and I know you say you are in love with her and I am not negating your feelings but it often feels this way in the beginning and isn't necessarily love. the longer you stay with her the harder it will be to walk away.
This girl has serious issues. I know you would die for her but would she die for you? You deserve equal love, you don't have to be a rescuer.
Yes she was an escort when i met her. I “hired” her. I know what you mean about being new and might not be love, but this is 100% love.
She has been living here with me for 1 month now and she tried to get clean, but that did not work out. It has been a great month and for the most part, we have been super happy and caring towards each other, but like every couple we have had our new couple problems. But i believe this is a different situation. I have my suspicions like i originally posted. And i have recently learned she is also lying to her escort friends and myself. I have decided to let it go and see how much i end up getting hurt. I never mentioned that i have a son that just adores her. And she is the reason i get to see my son as often as i do. As his mother does not trust me alone with him.
I think letting your son anywhere near a woman with substance abuse problems probably isn't the best idea. Does his mother realize that is the situation, because I'm guessing she would not be okay with that, either.
I know sometimes you want to give people a chance who you feel haven't ever been given a proper one. And who knows, maybe it is love and will work out after all.
If I were to guess though, I would say that you were desperate and lonely at the time, and had a whirlwind night with this woman. And now you're even more desperate to hold onto a situation that is pretty messy.
You haven't known this escort for very long yet. You've talked a lot, you've spent a lot of time together, but you don't know her real well. Because within 2 1/2 months she has already lied a lot. And as we've established, she does drugs. Definitely wouldn't bring your son around this woman so soon, if not because she has issues then because he will be inevitably let-down when his parent's new partner who he has grown to like will vanish from his life one day when things fall apart between the two of you.
Finding a partner isn't easy, but I think you're going about it wrong.