He has strangled me a couple of times and grabbed me by the throat to the point where he has left marks on my neck and I have had to cover them up with make up. The last time he did this was a couple of months ago but since then I’ve tried not to get into any serious arguments with him face to face.
We’ve recently had a argument but usually when we argue he ignores me for weeks or days and I feel like it’s as a “punishment” so the last argument we had I said we need a few days a way. I reached out to him and his response was I love you but I don’t want you so you will have to wait so I ended it there because I don’t feel like I should be a option. I know most people will be thinking good riddance and you should just move on but it’s hard.
When we are good we seem to be really happy around each other and always so nice when we are not arguing full of compliments, tells me he is nothing without me and really affectionate. I have always been independent and was single and happy for four years before I met him and I just want to get back to being that but just don’t know how to. All my friends seem to be in happy relationships now and starting families and I know he isn’t the one for me but it’s so hard when you know you’ve let someone in and you just have to start again.
If he wasn’t so aggressive and angry when we argued I know things would be better between us but his anger is hurtful and scary and I don’t think I can spend the rest of my life being scared of someone who I am in a relationship with and some of the things he has flipped on me about are ridiculous Any advice??