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My bisexual identity and social life are making me feel separated from my parents

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on May 16 2019 at 07:24
Member since: 16 May 2019
LGBT advice I have struggled with same sex attraction for my whole life but especially for the past few years now. I have recently for the first time in my life become a part of a friend group at my church who I feel very comfortable with and am able to share things with.

Today I was making casual conversation with two other girls and One of them asked if I’m gay and I responded by, for the first time ever, saying that I’m bi but they can’t tell a soul.The only other time I’ve talked about this is crying apologetically to my mom while she reassured me that I’m just confused.

It’s really nice to have people I can talk to about these things, but it makes me feel like I’m living a double life, because there are things I can talk about with my friends that I can never talk about to my parents. (It doesn’t help that my friends tend to use curse words and my mom is really judgmental about stuff like that).

I haven’t mentioned yet that I’m homeschooled and haven’t had much social interaction till recently. I feel like I’m living a lie and everything will cave in sooner or later and it’s only just a matter of time before this gets out of hand. It doesn’t help that I think I’m starting to crush on another girl in my group who is also bi.

My bisexual identity and social life are making me feel separated from my parents
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on May 16 2019 at 14:31
Member since: 16 May 2019
Heya, just reading your post! So i also struggled a little bit with being bi, but what i think most people don't understand that bi doesn't always mean 50-50% on either side its just up to you and in a sense you become attracted to a personality more than personality and gender. It's unfortunate that your parents say that it's just you being confused, as this undermines your feelings. Never let anyone tell you that your feelings are invalid, as if you decide later that you are LGBTQ or hetero or whatever you like, it doesn't discredit what you are feeling in this moment right? if you were sad yesterday and happy today, does that mean you weren't sad previously? no! not at all, so keep that in mind and please don't feel any pressure to adhere to any orientation regardless of who you tell. I also have trouble talking to my parents and depending on your age, it might be helpful to talk to your parents about how there are topics that you feel are sensitive to you and that you might not quite be ready to talk about them. They should respect your boundaries, if you put your case forward in a calm and mature manner. Wishing the best

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