I met my "wife at work" ("B") in 2004 when I started at a financial services firm. She was a youngish team leader of my section. One day at work our eyes just 'met' and we kept on like this for about an hour. Gradually something developed between us although nothing happened. She was engaged, and he worked for the firm at another office. But, she gave the impression she wasn't impressed with him on a number of occasions, often in front of me. She left for a better job. At her leaving party someone asked her what her ideal man was like, because she was definitely not impressed by her fiancee's attitude toward her. Her reply described me physically and in my behaviour toward her. My team were staggered, especially as I had just joined the conversation. Her fiancee arrived to pick her up and I felt empty, more than I thought I would ever feel.
I carried on with the firm until 2009, before leaving for a career break (joining a retail firm). My daughter required extra help so I was at home. Then, one day in 2011 "B" turned up at the store whilst I was doing promotions work. We chatted. She invited me to join Facebook. I saw her again once more in store before I landed an office job in 2016.
In Dec 2017 I got back into Financial Services. On my first day "B"s husband (the former fiancee) bumped into me. There was a surprised hello and he quickly told me "B" was there too. Soon the three of us we were colleagues and friends. However I noticed one of his female team mates was very friendly with him. "B" seemed to notice too. In October 2018 "B"s husband told me he was leaving for another firm, but the job was project work and not guaranteed permanent. Apparently "B" was furious. At his leaving party "B" turned up and ended up spending most of her time sitting with me, buying me drinks. It was only the final half hour of the night that he managed to get involved with us, but "B"s body language suggested she was happier being with me. At one point she took my phone and studied my photos, confirming who was my wife and being impressed by our long relationship (30 years). I didn't tell her about my wife's little adventures.
For my Birthday, she bought me a special card that I knew only she would have sent. At the firm's Christmas party she asked me to take a guest off her hands so she could talk to a senior executive. Recently, we have talked a lot in the office, but we have very limited lunch times, and she has to go off and look after her 2 children every day. But there's always the nods, the chats here and there, and even the odd email (she works in a completely different team to me, and has recently been made a Director). I am part of a committee that organises social and sports events within the firm. During a recent meeting it was noted "B" was going to become part of the set-up as her team wanted to be more involved. I was a bit surprised. I met up with her today, and she informed me that she wanted her team to be more involved. Basically I think she was referring to herself. This will mean even more direct contact between us.
Do you have a problem? If so: what do you want to know? How can we help?
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What i can say is that being married does not mean you won't meet someone else who you will have strong chemistry with. It's obvious you and B have Strong chemistry that have lasted years.its possible theres even some love involved. Bit is it worth losing your marriage over.
If you're unhappy in your marriage and have tried but failed to work out your problems then its probably a good idea to leave. But don't leave your marriage because you think you can end up with B. That's a wrong reason for divorce.
Worse still, don't have an affair with B no matter how good and happy she makes you feel. Accept you're attracted to her and that its normal.Then let those feelings go. Put your family first and work on your marriage.
Finally ask yourself this, if it was your wife having the same feelings you're experiencing for another man, how would that make you feel.
Maybe I'm being thick
What do you want exactly?